Announcing The Ultimate Open Marriage Manual
Announcing…
The Ultimate Open Marriage Manual
This is a book, and a separate course (yes, it will be both!) I promised many years ago and has been five years in the making.
Over the last several years I have had literally hundreds of requests from many of you asking me to write a book about how to manage a non-monogamous relationship when you live with your girlfriend or wife in an OLTR arrangement, swinger marriage, or similar non-monogamous marriage, as well as how to convert a normal marriage to an open one.
At the time, I said that I wasn’t comfortable writing such a book until I was in an OLTR myself and had spent several years married under an OLTR Marriage.
Well, that time has finally come.
OLTR Marriage is truly the best of both worlds, and I would know. It is the exact type of marriage I said I wanted way back in 2012 right here, years before I ever met Pink Firefly. A lot of folks back then said I was full of shit, or just fantasizing, or that it was some kind of man-Disney, and/or that I would never do it.
But as usual, I mean what I say, and I always do what I say I will do. Five years after writing that article on how to have an OLTR Marriage, that is precisely what I did. Pink Firefly and I are now entering our sixth year together and have been happily married for almost three years of that time.
Not only are we doing well, we are doing better than I expected by this point…
- Our drama these days is literally near-zero.
- Our attraction for each other, both emotionally and sexually is still incredibly strong.
- We are having more sex now than when we were first married.
- I love her now more than I did when we first started getting serious and she feels the same about me.
- I am still having sex with my FBs on the side, consistently, every week without any problems or disruptions.
- All of my legal and financial protections have been confirmed by multiple attorneys and other asset protection experts and are holding strong 100% just in case there is ever a divorce.
My marriage, at least so far, has been a god damn smashing success on all levels, far beyond my expectations.
For those men over age 35 who want to and are ready to settle down with a woman for the long-term (which honestly does not include a lot of you reading these words, but does include some of you), the OLTR Marriage fucking rocks. I’m ready to describe to you exactly, step-by-step, how to have a marriage or live-in relationship just like this.
I am very excited and proud to announce that in mid to late May I will, finally, be releasing my latest Blackdragon dating book, The Ultimate Open Marriage Manual. You can get just the book, or the book and the unabridged audiobook, or an entire video course, whichever choice you prefer. This way I cover all styles and price points.
This is the bible for those Alpha Male 2.0s over the age of 35 who are ready and willing to settle down long-term with a live-in girlfriend or wife but who also never wants to be sexually monogamous (which doesn’t work anyway) and doesn’t want to risk any of his hard-earned money or assets in case of divorce or break-up like most men do when they get idiotically married the traditional way.
Having a wife who you love while still being able to have sex with other women whenever you want without limits and while having all of your money and assets 100% protected in case that marriage doesn’t work out down the road… holy shit, it’s truly the best of all worlds.
As I’ve said many times, the OLTR Marriage is the only rational and responsible way for a modern man to settle down with a woman.
This is the longest Blackdragon book I have ever written, clocking in at 107,000 words, organized into six sections and 31 chapters that cover literally every aspect of a non-monogamous marriage. From managing FBs on the side, to maintaining attraction with your wife, managing drama, legal and financial aspects, sexual logistics, and so much more.
For you men who are already monogamously married, I have you covered as well. I have an entire section on how to convert your normal marriage to an open one based on proven techniques I’ve seen scores of men use (including many I have successfully coached through the process).
Moreover, it’s not just me who developed this material. Many of the techniques I present in the book have been reviewed, modified, approved by experienced and qualified marriage therapists, experts, and attorneys to make sure that every technique presented is 100% solid.
Here’s a list of the chapters so you know what topics the book covers:
Section 1 – The OLTR Marriage
Chapter 1 – Overview
Chapter 2 – Types of Open Marriages
Chapter 3 – The OLTR Marriage
Chapter 4 – The Three Most Important Aspects of an OLTR Marriage
Chapter 5 – Maintaining Attraction
Chapter 6 – Managing the Day-To-Day
Chapter 7 – Home Layout
Chapter 8 – Quality Communication
Chapter 9 – Drama Management
Chapter 10 – How to Handle Drama
Chapter 11 – How to Minimize Drama
Chapter 12 – The Six Negative Behaviors and Their Cures
Chapter 13 – Ground Rules
Section 2 – Sexual Aspects
Chapter 14 – Managing the Open Aspect with Your Wife
Chapter 15 – Sex with Your Wife
Chapter 16 – Oneitis Management
Chapter 17 – Jealousy Management
Section 3 – Legal and Financial Protection
Chapter 18 – OLTR Marital Legal Structures
Chapter 19 – Prenuptial Details
Chapter 20 – How Finances Tie into The Rest of The Marriage
Section 4 – Family Matters
Chapter 21 –Raising Children in A Non-Monogamous Marriage
Chapter 22 – Dealing with Family and Friends
 Section 5 – Side Women
Chapter 23 – Managing Your Side Women
Chapter 24 – Getting New Side Women
Chapter 25 – Where to Have Sex with Side Women
Chapter 26 – Other Sexual Logistics
Section 6 – Converting from A Monogamous Marriage to An Open One
Chapter 27 – The Conversion Process
Chapter 28 – How to Convince Your Wife
Chapter 29 – Other Conversion Methods
Chapter 30 – Troubleshooting
Chapter 31 – The All-Important First Three Weeks
This book will officially replace my old 2012 ebook entitled How To Create Or Convert To An Open Marriage. Anyone who has purchased this book in the last 12 months will get a 50% discount on this new, updated, and more comprehensive book (as well as a smaller discount if they want the video course as well).
The Ultimate Open Marriage Manual will be available in at least three versions:
1. The standard version, which will run about $67 just like any other Blackdragon manual
2. An audio version which will include the book plus the unabridged audio version in my voice
3. A full video course version which will be both of the versions above plus most of the chapters presented in video training format with me explaining everything visually. (Hopefully, I will be able to convince Pink Firefly to be a part of those videos as well.) I don’t have exact pricing on these options yet, but I will soon. Because of COVID-19 I will do my best to keep the prices low.
It will be available permanently once released, but during its release weekend it will be at a lower price with lots of extra content. After that three or four-day period you will still be able to get the book in any of the versions, but it will be more expensive and have less content.
I’m super excited about this. Finally, the Blackdragon series of dating and relationship books for men now feels truly complete. Online dating, first and second dates, managing non-monogamous relationships, dating younger women, and now managing your non-monogamous marriage. (The only thing left now is to update the Ultimate Online Dating Manual. As I mentioned a few weeks ago, I will do that later in the year once the quarantines are behind us.)
More information on The Ultimate Open Marriage Manual coming very soon. Stay tuned.
I like that your business advice is clearly evident on your blogs. During a recession you told us you need to double down on what you know makes money, and here you are doing just that.
Bd, why do you prize emotional monogamy?
wouldn’t it be freer and safer for a man’s well being to be both sexual and emotional non-mono?
Can you really not be even more fulfilled emotionally / happy with feelings for multiple women?
If the video version will come with PDF written transcripts of every single vid, I’m in.
AKA “true polyamory.” From my interactions with the poly community in Jakarta, I’d say that these kinds of relationships tend to be highly unstable. Nothing intrinsically wrong with that — unless you actually do want some stability. Getting closer and closer to sixty myself, I’d say that as men get older, stability does become more desirable.
No one in this space will out-work me.
I. Am. Inevitable.
I don’t. I just prefer it for me at this time in my life as a sexually experienced man who is almost 50. Most men reading these words should not be emotionally exclusive with anyone.
For most men, yes.
Sure you can. I had MLTRs for over 10 years and I loved it.
Would I want that literally forever? For me, no.
The video transcripts for the videos will be called “a book.”
That’s a generalization. I’ve seen polyamory work just fine. (I’ve never seen polygamy work out well in a low-drama way, but I have seen polyamory work.)
Correct. Having three girlfriends sounds great when you’re 32. When you’re 57 it just sounds exhausting.
I don’t believe in the success ration of polyamory. I simply see it as a high-effort low-ROI choice. However, other swingers identify me as poly (and they’d be right). I think the right way to go is OLTR.