12 Aug Teenage Pregnancy
I’m going to show you one of the biggest reasons why teenagers and other young people with no maturity and no money get married or have babies. I see it on my Facebook all the time. I’m about to show you a specific example that demonstrates this well.
For those of you old enough, think back to the 1950s, 60s, even 70s or 80s. What happened when a teenage girl got pregnant back then? What happened to her social life? Her family life? Her school life? Were people supportive of her decision?
I went to high school during the late 80s. Not that long ago. There were about 1200 students in my high school. I remember a grand total of three girls who actually got pregnant, did not get an abortion, and had a baby. In all three cases, the girl was immediately considered a slut and a whore and too gross to even hang out with by boys and girls alike. In all three cases, the girls suddenly vanished out of the school, never to be seen by the students again.
That’s why only three teenage girls out of 1200 had babies.
My memory is that there were a grand total of two girls during my four years in high school who actually got married by age 19. In both cases, everyone ridiculed these girls as being stupid. Kids made fun of them merciliessly.
That’s why only two teenage girls out of 1200 got married.
Last year I was out with a 19 year-old girl. She was a normal girl from a typical, middle-class, white, suburban area. She said of the seven close girlfriends she had, five of them already have babies. This is the norm now. Let me show you why.
I’m going to paste a real group of comments from someone’s Facebook page below. Let me give you some background to put what you’re about to read in perspective. This certain someone is an 18 year old girl who was a virgin two months ago. I’ll call her Suzi. She now is dating a guy (who I think is 20 years old). A musician. Which is another word for “no money”. Her relationship with this new guy is less than one month old.
This morning she changed her FB status from “In a relationship” with him to “Engaged”.
These are the real responses she has received so far in less than 11 hours. I have not changed anything except for removing the names and irrelevant posts.
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person1 omg i love you both congrats hahah
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Suzi Hahaha we love you too! Thanks 🙂
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person2 omg!!!!!! yay
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Suzi Haha, thanks person2 🙂
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person3 daaaaaang! congrats! haha
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Suzi Lol Thank you person3… Crazyyyy huh? Haha
10 hours ago · Like
person3 to say the least. but im happy that your happy. 🙂
10 hours ago · Like
Suzi Thank you very much 🙂 We need to hang out soon. I want to see you before you leave!
person4 WHAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAT 😮 omg. Forrealllll? lol Congrats
10 hours ago · Like
Suzi Yes, yes. hahaha. Thanks 🙂
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person5 How excitingggg ! Awh, i miss you!
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person6 For sureeeee! I’m excited. 🙂 Be ready to have some fun, girrrrrrl.
10 hours ago · Like · 1 person
person7 Ahhh yeahhh (: Hurry hurry! haha
10 hours ago · Like · 1 person
person8 What????????????
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person9 You are one crazy chickadee! Mucho felicidades, chica!
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person10 Congratulations!
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And this, my friends, is why teenage girls do such stupid things. When they announce they’re getting married or they’re going to have a baby, they are showered with positive attention by everyone they know. This includes their parents, by the way, who will support the happy new “couple” financially (was well as any children that result). You can see how Suzi is drinking up all this positive attention and loving every minute of it.
(You’re probably thinking that she may not even end up married. Possible, but that’s not the point. It’s also possible the only reason for the engagement is that Suzi is pregnant, which makes all of this even worse.)
I see this stuff on Facebook and in real life all the time. I’m sure you do too.
Rewarding bad behavoir creates more of it. If everyone celebrates stupid irresponsible behavior, that’s what society is going to get more of. Sadly society has sacrificed this concept on the altar of “being nice”.
The real tragedy here is five to ten years down the road, when Suzi is a bitter, jaded, near-poverty single mother, she’s going to blame her situation on “men”.
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Hawk
Posted at 03:11 pm, 13th August 2011So true, how did’nt I realise it sooner!
Kevin Velasco
Posted at 05:20 am, 15th August 2011LOL I wonder how many of those people say those positive things on Facebook but outside of Facebook they’re talking behind her back.
This is one of the problems with social media and the ways it’s affecting cultures is a concern.
Facebook posts/updates are merely projections of one’s ego.
When a person changes their relationship status to “engaged” (or uploads a photo that shows off their body), they receive comments / “Likes” and associate that with pleasure (positive reinforcement).
As a result they continue the pattern. Humans are silly reactive beings.
Caleb Jones
Posted at 09:36 am, 15th August 2011Had another comment pop up on my Facebook feed this morning from a different girl.
“Some people have told me that they miss the old me, before I was a mom…. and I say FUCK you. THIS is me now. I don’t give a fuck how young I am, how much sleep I lose, or what opportunities I may have lost by having a baby at 17. I never want to wake up without seeing her face, and I would give my life to protect her. If you can’t accept the fact that I breathe for my baby then y’all can fucking forget about ever being affiliated with me. I don’t respect you anyways.”
So it looks like some girls eventually get some minor negative feedback. Not that it accomplishes much, as you can see above.
(And of course, that statement above was followed by many positive “You tell ’em girl!” comments, from both men and women.)
Daniel
Posted at 05:19 am, 21st August 2011When I was in high school in the late 90s it still wasn’t cool to have kids. What’s happened in the last 10 or 12 years?
Jon
Posted at 07:09 pm, 19th June 2012She’ll also get a massively positive response when she announces her divorce on Facebook. (judging by the 50 Likes and 27 positive comments one of my friends received after she posted “Free at last!” earlier this year)
7gj7
Posted at 05:43 am, 3rd June 2014The % of US school-age girls having babies has dropped dramatically over the years…they have less babies now than ever, and DRAMATICALLY less than in the 1st half of the 20th Century, and in earlier centuries and millenia.
Caleb Jones
Posted at 10:30 am, 3rd June 2014It’s dropped a little as compared to just a few years ago, but it’s still higher than it was 20-30-40 years ago.
And earlier centuries is not a valid comparison, because back then those teenage girls where married and in stable households. I’m talking about modern-day teenage girls (unmarried, no job, still living with parents, etc).
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Eric Heide
Posted at 01:57 am, 1st December 2015It’s an interesting perspective, and likely quite true. Of course these young men and women girls are going to be socially supportive. But ask them to assist her, to be a real friend because she needs hellp, then they will be gone. Real friends support each other beyond “you go girl”.
I think that real maturity for most is once they move out and live on their own for about 5 years and learn to get a stable job, that pays well enough, to stay in one spot so that rent doesn’t increase with every move.
Our current life style doesn’t allow for kids to mature and takes far too long to educate them. We have our kids babysat by the modern education system, when what it teaches them by 12th grade could actually be taught in two to five years, if done properly. North American education technique established by authority is beyond atrocious.
But I’m betting that will change in about 20 – 30 years.
Martin
Posted at 02:14 am, 28th March 2016This is FB disease. It is turning men into women faster than women are turning men into women. You have to be positive about EVERYTHING. If you are not positive, you are negative, and will lose standing, and possibly be unfriended or blocked. You cannot have an opinion. We know girls do this a lot. Now boys and men who grew up with FB do the same. Respect the Hive mind, or suffer the consequences. Some of those well wishers think she is screwed. They just can’t SAY it on social media. Insanity. Gamma Ray Burst, wipe out all electronics and save us all.