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One of the most common questions I get from men who are new to Alpha Male 2.0 goes something like this:7

“Caleb, I was on a first date and she said X. Is that a red flag?”

Or, “I’ve been seeing this girl, we’ve slept together a couple of times, and now she did Y. Is that a red flag?”

What I’m about to say may surprise you, but it’s the truth.

There is no such thing as a red flag in the Alpha Male 2.0 world.

To understand why, you need to understand where most men are coming from mentally when they ask this question. Almost every man who discovers Alpha Male 2.0 comes from a monogamous paradigm. That has been your default setting your entire life. In that paradigm, every woman you date is subconsciously being evaluated as a potential girlfriend, long-term partner, or wife.

And when you’re thinking in monogamous terms, red flags matter a lot.

In a traditional monogamous framework, the woman you commit to is supposed to be almost perfect. She needs to be attractive, intelligent, emotionally stable, responsible, compatible with your values, compatible with your religion, good with money, good with kids, sexually compatible, low drama, and on and on. Because you’re putting all of your romantic and sexual needs into one woman, she has to check an enormous number of boxes. When she doesn’t, that missing box becomes a “red flag.”

But Alpha Male 2.0 is not a monogamous framework.

When you are non-monogamous, no single woman needs to be perfect. Different women can fulfill different roles in your life. You might have an MLTR who has certain qualities, one or more FBs who bring other qualities, and if you choose to settle down later, an OLTR or wife who brings still another set of qualities. No one woman has to be everything.

This is why the concept of a red flag simply doesn’t translate.

Think about a man who is a pure player, someone who only wants one-night stands. He meets women solely to have sex and move on. Ask yourself honestly: does that man care about red flags? Of course not. He doesn’t care if she would make a terrible girlfriend or a horrible wife, because that’s not what he’s looking for. Red flags are irrelevant to his objective.

Alpha Male 2.0 is not about being a one-night-stand player, but the underlying logic is the same. The term “red flag” assumes that every woman you date must be girlfriend or wife material. That assumption is false.

I’ve had dozens of FBs over the last twenty years who would have made absolutely terrible girlfriends and disastrous wives. Their lives were messy. Some were emotionally unstable. Some were irresponsible. Some had personality traits that would be unacceptable in a long-term partner.

They were still amazing FBs. Some of them lasted for years. They were fun, enjoyable, friendly, and great in bed. That’s all an FB needs to be.

So when I met these women on first dates and they said or did things that would horrify a monogamous man, I didn’t think, “Oh no, red flag.” I simply categorized them appropriately. That’s the key distinction.

Men new to Alpha Male 2.0 make the mistake of dragging monogamous thinking into a non-monogamous system. They hear something about a woman’s past, her habits, her lifestyle, or her personality, and they panic because they’re subconsciously evaluating her as a future wife. But she doesn’t need to be a future wife. She just needs to fit the category she belongs in.

In Alpha Male 2.0, there are only two requirements when you meet a woman in a dating context:
She must be attractive to you, and she must be nice to you.

That’s it.

If she’s attractive and nice to you, and her life is a complete mess, that doesn’t disqualify her. It simply tells you where she belongs. FB. Wear a condom and proceed accordingly.

If she’s attractive, nice to you, and seems relatively stable and enjoyable to spend time with, she might be MLTR material. You spend more time with her and see how things develop.

If, after months of dating, she consistently demonstrates high quality across many areas, then and only then does OLTR even become a consideration.

Notice the order here. Categorization comes first. Commitment comes much later, if at all.

This is why I say I have not experienced a “red flag” on a first date in nearly twenty years. Not because women are perfect, but because I am not expecting them to be. I don’t need every woman I meet to be marriage material. That pressure simply doesn’t exist.

The only time red flags matter is when you are operating in a strictly monogamous or traditional mindset where every date is treated like a job interview for a wife. If that’s your goal, then yes, you’ll be walking around with a checklist, interrogating women about their past, their family, their beliefs, and their long-term plans. But if that’s what you’re doing, you’re not practicing Alpha Male 2.0 in the first place.

In the Alpha Male 2.0 world, there are no red flags. There is only categorization.

FB.
MLTR.
And much later, possibly, OLTR.

Once you fully internalize that shift, dating becomes dramatically simpler, less stressful, and far more enjoyable.

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