27 Feb Non-Monogamy and Christianity: What the Bible Actually Says
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One of the most common objections I hear to non-monogamy comes from conservative, traditional, right-wing Christians. You see it constantly in online comments and emails:
“This isn’t Christian.”
“This is sinful.”
“I’d love to do this, but I’m a Christian.”
So, let’s slow this down and actually examine the claim, not emotionally, not culturally, but biblically.
Because what I teach about non-monogamy under the Alpha Male 2.0 model is, in fact, fully compatible with Christianity.
And yes, I can prove it.
Where, exactly, does the Bible command monogamy?
Not where your pastor implies it.
Not what your parents told you.
Not what modern Christian culture assumes.
Where does the Bible explicitly say that a Christian man must be sexually exclusive to one woman for life?
The answer is uncomfortable for a lot of people:
It doesn’t.
There are two verses that sort of refer to this—Corinthians 7:2 and Ephesians 5:31—and even those only imply pair bonding. They do not command lifelong sexual exclusivity. They do not outlaw multiple partners. They do not define monogamy as a moral requirement.
That’s it. Two implied references. No command.
If monogamy were a core Christian doctrine, you would expect it to be clearly stated, repeatedly reinforced, and strictly commanded.
Instead, what do we see?
The Bible contains over 37 clear examples of polygamy and references non-monogamous relationships well over a hundred times. Kings, patriarchs, prophets—men central to biblical history—had multiple wives and concubines. This wasn’t hidden. It wasn’t condemned. It was openly recorded.
So, let’s put this side by side:
- Explicit commands for monogamy: zero
- Implied references to monogamy: two
- Explicit references to non-monogamy: dozens
- Total mentions of non-monogamous structures: over a hundred
That alone should raise questions.
“It Was Described, Not Endorsed”
At this point, the usual counterargument appears:
“The Bible only describes polygamy historically. It doesn’t present it as the moral ideal.”
Fine. Let’s accept that argument for a moment.
Even if that’s true, the Bible still does not command monogamy either.
Which means Christians are not following a divine mandate when they insist on monogamy. They’re following a cultural tradition, not scripture.
Human beings added this rule later. Not God. Not Jesus. Not Moses. Not the Ten Commandments.
Modern Christianity quietly inserted lifelong sexual exclusivity as a requirement, even though it doesn’t exist as a command anywhere in the Bible.
At this point, many Christians mentally equate non-monogamy with promiscuity.
That’s the real issue.
When traditional Christians hear “non-monogamy,” they imagine:
- sleeping with hundreds of women,
- lying constantly,
- spreading disease,
- abandoning children,
- moral chaos.
Obviously that is not what I teach
Alpha Male 2.0 non-monogamy is structured, honest, and limited.
For most men, it looks like:
- one serious woman (MLTR or OLTR),
- one additional woman on the side (FB).
That’s it.
Two women. Sometimes three. Not ten. Not fifty. Not chaos.
If you believe two women equals promiscuity, then the word has lost all meaning.
Morality, Honesty, and Christian Compatibility
Let’s talk about ethics.
Alpha Male 2.0 models require:
- no lying,
- no deception,
- no leading women on,
- full disclosure of non-monogamy,
- treating women well,
- emotional responsibility,
- sexual responsibility.
There is nothing in Christianity that condemns honesty.
Nothing that condemns consensual adult relationships.
Nothing that condemns not lying.
In fact, those principles align better with Christian morality than the modern model of serial monogamy, cheating, secret affairs, and divorce.
If you are a Christian and you believe non-monogamy is sinful, you need to answer one question honestly:
Where does the Bible say that?
Not where a pastor told you.
Not what your church culture assumes.
Not what your parents believed.
If you can’t point to a clear biblical command, then you are enforcing a rule that human beings added later.
And once you admit that, the guilt disappears.
I am not promoting promiscuity.
I am not promoting chaos.
I am not promoting irresponsibility.
What I teach is structured, ethical, transparent, and historically consistent with Christianity.
If someone disagrees, they’re welcome to do so—but they should stop claiming the Bible as their justification unless they can actually show where it says what they believe it says.
Because when you look at the text itself, calmly and honestly, the conclusion is unavoidable:
Non-monogamy, as practiced under Alpha Male 2.0 principles, is not un-Christian.
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glenn braunstein
Posted at 01:01 pm, 27th February 2026Caleb, I appreciate you pushing people back to the actual text instead of defaulting to inherited church assumptions. Once someone honestly examines how many named patriarchs, judges, and kings practiced polygyny without divine condemnation, the claim that monogamy is a clearly commanded Christian requirement starts to look more cultural than scriptural.
As I’ve read your books, I’ve consistently noticed that your position aligns far more closely with the actual biblical record and the created structure of man than most modern church teaching does. The structure you describe is not foreign to Scripture. It mirrors the historical reality of Israel far more than modern Western monogamy does.
I’ve written two books that address this directly.
The first is The Biblical Case for Polygamy. It works carefully through the biblical material itself, but it also deals with the legal definition of adultery, because that is where the confusion usually begins. In Scripture, adultery is not defined as “a married man having more than one woman.” It is defined as violating another man’s marriage covenant. Once you understand that legal category, polygyny and adultery stop being conflated. The book walks through the Hebrew and Greek terms, covenant law in Torah, and how later Christian tradition gradually reframed the narrative around lifelong sexual exclusivity. It’s available on Amazon under my name, Glenn Braunstein.
The second is Wrestling with Nature: Understanding Why Men Cheat on the Women They Love. That one approaches the issue from biology, psychology, and social conditioning. It explains male sexual wiring without defending dishonesty or irresponsibility, and it distinguishes structured, transparent non-monogamy from deception and chaos.
Both books are available on Amazon.
For Christians who want their convictions rooted in the text rather than tradition, definitions matter. Covenant law matters. If adultery is misdefined, then polygyny will automatically be misjudged. The starting point has to be what is actually written, not what later culture assumed.
Respect for bringing that discussion into the open.
Jack Outside the Box
Posted at 04:35 pm, 27th February 2026Sorry, Caleb, but you are just wrong here. Christianity is completely incompatible with alpha 2.0 teachings.
First, let me stick up for women here. The Bible demands lifetime sexual monogamy FROM WOMEN! In fact, if a woman is not a virgin on her wedding night, the Bible commands that she be stoned to death! If, during her marriage, she sleeps with any man other than her husband, same thing – death by stoning. Thus, under biblical teachings, every woman who has slept with more than one man in her entire life deserves the death penalty. The only exception is if she is widowed, in which case she can marry another, but if she marries another after a divorce while her ex is still alive, that’s adultery according to Jesus.
The Bible is clear – FOR WOMEN, it is sexual monogamy, celibacy, or death! BUT WOMEN DESERVE SEXUAL LIBERATION TOO! If women follow the Bible, they are guaranteed a lifetime of misery and sexual repression. Christianity always leads to slut shaming and the Madonna/whore complex. If she’s not a virgin on her wedding night, she’s a whore worthy of death according to the Bible!
It is NOT sex-positive to praise male non-monogamy while condemning it in the female! It is hypocritical trash! WOMEN DESERVE MANY MEN TOO! Those are actually my favorite women! Christian men saying to women, “I can, but you can’t.” That’s hypocritical and shameful! It’s all slut shaming!
Second, the Bible condemns fuck buddies and casual sex for both men and women, referring to it as “fornication” in the New Testament. According to the Bible, if a man and a woman have sex once, they are instantly engaged to be married, or she must become his concubine (serious girlfriend), and she must be monogamous to him!
CALEB PLEASE – Don’t say that this slut shaming garbage has any place in the alpha male 2.0 system. Let women be sexually liberated too without Christian men demanding their virginity and monogamy. Christianity, just like Judaism and Islam, is anti-women and anti-female sexuality. And even the man must either have multiple wives or multiple serious girlfriends (concubines), but if men have MLTRS or FBs, they are judged as fornicators and the New Testament demands that men “flee fornication.”
Conclusion – the Bible is anti-female sexual liberation and anti-male casual sex, demanding that women be virgins before marriage and that men only have wives and one way OLTRS. Let’s end the slut shaming by not endorsing slut shaming systems, okay?
Jack Outside the Box
Posted at 05:32 pm, 27th February 2026No, it’s defined as a married woman having more than one man.
I’ve been with more than my fair share of married women. Nothing wrong with it. And there’s nothing wrong with two way open marriages and open relationships. There’s nothing wrong with cheating either, since monogamy doesn’t work.
Women have every right to be just as sexually liberated as men, but the bible denies them this, which is why they should reject the bible.
King Alex
Posted at 03:28 pm, 28th February 2026I’m with you 100% that the monogamy structure was meant to control the masses. However, how about: “You shall not commit adultery,” Exodus 20:14.
Adultery is generally defined as voluntary sexual intercourse between a married person and someone who is not their spouse.
This is old testament, so I’m also confused why men had so many wives back then and then this versicle is there.
Jack Outside the Box
Posted at 04:31 pm, 28th February 2026King Alex – In the Bible, adultery only meant that women aren’t allowed to sleep with anyone other than their one husband, and men aren’t allowed to sleep with other men’s wives. That’s it.
The Bible condemns female sexual liberation and demands that men financially take care of all their wives and concubines for life.. It prohibits casual sex for both sexes. This is because birth control had not yet been invented at the time, and neither were DNA paternity tests. So if having sex is the same thing as having children, and there is no way to be sure that the child a woman is carrying belongs to any one specific man, these rules made sense back then. Today, they are oppressive and inhibit freedom and happiness.
Jack Outside the Box
Posted at 04:56 pm, 28th February 2026Ok, Caleb likes receipts, so here they are. This is the Bible’s Old Testament book of Deuteronomy Chapter 22, Verses 13-21:
“If any man take a wife, and go in unto her, and hate her, And give occasions of speech against her, and bring up an evil name upon her, and say, I took this woman, and when I came to her, I found her not a maid: Then shall the father of the damsel, and her mother, take and bring forth the tokens of the damsel’s virginity unto the elders of the city in the gate: And the damsel’s father shall say unto the elders, I gave my daughter unto this man to wife, and he hateth her; And, lo, he hath given occasions of speech against her, saying, I found not thy daughter a maid; and yet these are the tokens of my daughter’s virginity. And they shall spread the cloth before the elders of the city. And the elders of that city shall take that man and chastise him; And they shall amerce him in an hundred shekels of silver, and give them unto the father of the damsel, because he hath brought up an evil name upon a virgin of Israel: and she shall be his wife; he may not put her away all his days. But if this thing be true, and the tokens of virginity be not found for the damsel: Then they shall bring out the damsel to the door of her father’s house, and the men of her city shall stone her with stones that she die: because she hath wrought folly in Israel, to play the whore in her father’s house: so shalt thou put evil away from among you.”
Now here is the Bible’s Old Testament Book of Exodus Chapter 22, verses 16-17, which prohibits casual sex::
“And if a man entice a maid that is not betrothed, and lie with her, he shall surely endow her to be his wife. If her father utterly refuse to give her unto him, he shall pay money according to the dowry of virgins.”
The Bible is NOT compatible with a sex-positive lifestyle or with the alpha 2.0 life. There are also quotes from the New Testament prohibiting fornication (casual sex) and sex outside of marriage. If anyone wants me to quote those, let me know,
Caleb Jones
Posted at 10:28 am, 1st March 2026Yeah, that might be accurate. Good point. But for men it doesn’t, and I’m talking to men at this blog here.
Yet the Bible allows some of God’s favorite people (Abraham, etc) to have concubines, and God has no problem with it. Meaning that “adultery” in this contact might exclude concubines.
Jack Outside the Box
Posted at 07:42 pm, 1st March 2026.
I understand that. But you said it yourself – If a man has multiple women and then insists on all of those women being virgins when he first meets them, and demands that they fuck no one but him for their whole life, women in the western world will not tolerate such gender hypocrisy. And yet, that’s exactly the attitude that the Bible demands that you, as a man, have towards women.
You say you want to talk only to men? Fine. So instead of telling men that the alpha male 2.0 lifestyle is, in your words, “fully compatible” with the Christianity, tell men that the Bible’s demand for female “purity” is precisely incompatible with male happiness, because it requires men to police women, make sure they’re “sexually pure,” and prevent them from having sex lives outside of one man, while that one man gets to fuck around because he’s not a woman.
Women won’t allow such hypocrisy and policing women’s bodies like this is incompatible with a man’s happiness. Please tell them that.
But you have to know what a concubine is. A concubine lives with the man, is allowed to have sex with no one but him, and is financially and materialistically taken care of by the man, as well as the children she produces. In other words, she is a one way OLTR. The man can fuck around, but she can’t. The only difference is that they’re not officially married.
Also, the prohibition against adultery prevents women from fucking anyone other than their husband if they are wives or one master if they are concubines. And men aren’t allowed to fuck another man’s wife or concubine. The Bible requires you to take financial care of all the wives and concubines you’re sleeping with. Casual sex is prohibited, and even serious relationships in which women can fuck around too are prohibited.
Christianity is completely incompatible with male happiness as it requires men to police women and follow them around, and then stone them to death if they, in the Bible’s words, “play the whore.” But men can. No man who is a Christian can possibly be happy.
Caleb Jones
Posted at 05:19 am, 2nd March 2026You’re getting in the weeds, Jack. The point is that the Bible doesn’t directly command true monogamy, and God praises and loves many men who practice non-monogamy. If you want to deep dive on precisely the types of non-monogamy it allows and doesn’t allow, that’s a discussion for another time.