Here’s how you get laid.  (This is the way I view it, though I’ve never really described it this way.)
Imagine a point system, going from 1 to 100.
Now imagine that every woman you meet has a secret number between 1 and 100.  She has a different number for every man.  Your number for her might be 67.  Her number for your best friend might be 42.

If you meet or exceed that number, she will have sex with you.  If you come close to that number but not quite, she will put you in friend zone, or the “wait and see” category, or the “he’s a provider therefore make him wait for sex” category.  If you get no where near that number she will blow you off and never see you again.

Her number is largely static.  There’s not much you can do to change her number since it’s based on external factors that have nothing to do with you, formed over her entire lifetime.
For example, let’s say you’re a funny, social, skinny guy, 6’2″ with dark hair and shiny blue eyes.  A woman you meet at a bookstore has a number for you of 42, which reasonably low.  This is because she likes funny guys, likes tall guys, and likes guys with dark hair.

Another woman you go on an online first date with has a number of 82.  This is because she loves giant, husky, brooding, stoic guys with dark, mysterious eyes.  There are hundreds of different factors that make up a woman’s secret number but the point is A) you don’t know exactly what that number is, and B) the value of that number is more or less out of your control (unless you do something radical like get her drunk).

What IS under your control is how many points you “score” when you’re standing in front of her face-to-face.  It doesn’t matter if you’re picking her up at the grocery store, the dance club, or meeting her on an online first date.

Every single thing you do and don’t do either adds or subtracts points.  As my friend Brian Tracy says, “Nothing is neutral.”

If you smell bad, lose 12 points.

If you’re dressed really well, add 15 points.

If you’re nervous and figity, lose 20 points.

If your hair is starting to thin, lose 5 points.

If you’re ripped with sixpack abs, add 17 points.

If you tell her how hot she is, lose 10 points.

If you have good eye contact, add 8 points.

If you have bad teeth, lose 25 points.

If you have a confident, don’t-give-a-shit demanor, add 20 points.

If you ask about moving in together on the first date, lose 17 points.

If you have facial hair, add 12 points.

On and on this goes.  You and I may quibble over the exact point values of the examples I gave above, but that isn’t the point.  The point is there are litterally hundreds of little (and not so little) ways you can gain and lose points. More importantly, almost all of these things are directly under your control.

When you go out to meet or date women, your goal is to add as many points as you possibly can.  Your appearance, demeanor, body language, the topics you bring up, kino, the venue of where you meet her, ALL of these things will either add or subtract points from your score.

When I go out for a first date, I take extra special care to make sure my hair looks just right.  I put more product in it and spend more time on it.  I make it look more symmetrical, more shiny, more full, and less balding.  Is this because I think my hairstyle is going to get me laid?  No.  Is this because I think if my hairstyle is bad I will lose the lay?  No.  Guys with stupid hairstyles get laid all the time.  It’s because I know if my hair looks really good, I add about 7 points.  I want those points.  Because I want to get laid.
My goal is to score as many points as possible in all areas.  I make sure my shoes look really, really good.  Add 5 points.  I make sure to wear a cool shirt.  Add 3 points.  I make sure my facial hair is very well groomed and the back of my neck is shaved.  Add 10 points.

However, I’m overweight.  Lose 15 points.  Shit!  Sometimes I’m as much as 21 years older than the woman I’m seeing.  Lose another 12 points.  Dammit.  But I’m very confident.  Add 20 points.  Cool.  I also have an intelligent and witty personality.  Add another 13 points.  I’m also a little bit of an asshole.  Add 8 points.  (Yes, you heard me right.  That adds points.  Of course being a TOTAL asshole would lose points.)

However I have really pasty white skin (lose 10 points) and often have dark patches under my eyes (lose another 5 points).  Shit!  However I’m very good at getting women quickly comfortable with me.  Add 9 points.  Yay.
On and on this goes with many numbers added and subtracted until I come up with a final score.  This number is quite high.  I don’t know what the exact number is because all of these values are slightly arbitrary.  I just know it’s under 100 but still pretty high.  It’s as high as I can possibly can get it, because I’ve purposely and methodically addressed everything that can add or subtract points for me.

As a result, I tend to get laid a lot.  My first-dates-to-lays ratio is extremely high.

Do I lay ALL the women I try to lay?  No.  One women I try to lay might have her number set as high as 92.  She likes really skinny guys with blonde hair who are submissive and like to buy women lots of things prior to sex.  I’m not going to lay that one.  I might meet another woman with a number set at 89, because she only dates guys no more than about four years older than her (I’m 15 years older than her) and she’s turned off by men who wear suits and she into really, really tall guys (and I’m “only” 6’0″).

You can’t control her number.  You can control your score.
Notice that even the fact I’m overweight is technically under my control (working on it).  Get your score as high as you can, and meet as many woman as you can, and you’ll get laid.  A lot.
This brings up one final point, a point of historical contention among me and some guys.  There are times where some guys actually want to subtract points.  There are many examples of this but I’ll just give you one or two common ones.

You noticed above that I said telling a woman she’s hot (or pretty or beautiful or has nice boobs or whatever) will cause you to lose points on the initial lay.  This is a fact.  If you don’t believe me, go sarge up 20 women, tell them how hot/beautiful they are before you fuck them.  Then sarge up a second 20, and don’t compliment their appearance at all.  You will find you will get better results (and more quickly) from the second group than from the first group.

However, some guys will say “Well, you CAN fuck women if you tell them they’re hot!”  Yes, you can.  I never said you couldn’t.  I said doing so will cause you to lose points.  That means you’re going to have to make up those points in other areas.  That’s not a every effective way of getting laid, at least not in my opinion.  Yet some guys will still tell women they’re hot even if they reluctantly admit that doing so will cause them to lose points, saying that telling a girl she’s hot is more “natural” or something.  Hell, it might be, but it still causes you to lose points.  You don’t want to lose points, you want to get laid.  (Don’t you?)

I’m not going to debate the “tell her she’s hot” issue.  That’s not the issue here; there are many other examples.  I once worked with a guy who had piercings all over his face.  He had lots of female friends but never got laid.  Big shock why.  His peirceings were probably losing him 30 points or more.  He understood this, agreed with this, and admitted this.  Yet he still did not want to take his piecrings out, going on about how he wanted to “be who he was” or something.  Yet he was complaining (badly) that he was never getting laid…  Um…

My point is if you take a philosophical stand to purposely cause yourself to lose points, I appreciate your courage, but you’re not being very effective.  I don’t think getting frustrated and blue balls because you’re not getting laid is worth a stand on principle about your style or whatever.  Why don’t you add some points, get laid, then “be natural” or “be yourself” after you’ve banged the shit out of her?  Sounds like a much better system to me.

If you want to GET LAID, do what I do: suck it up and do the things necessarily that will add points to your score. You’ll be surprised how easy getting laid is once you do this.

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