Drama is bad. Much of what I talk about is how to avoid drama from women. However there are actually some complaints Alphas can occasionally get from women that demonstrate you’re doing things right. Of course, if you hear any complaints too often, it’s time to next her. But if you have to hear them occasionally, these are the ones you want to be hearing. Most of these apply to all relationships; some of them only apply to nonmonogamous ones.

-By Caleb Jones

Here then, are the top ten complains you WANT to hear from a woman you’re dating.

1. “You never get jealous.  That means you don’t really care about me.”

This is what I call a “clone statement”.  This is a meme a woman hears from her female friends that gets lodged in her head and that she later repeats. Many gals will tell a woman “OMG he doesn’t care if you flirt with other guys? He doesn’t get jealous?  Then he really doesn’t like you.” The gal will then repeat this to the man she’s dating without even thinking, even if she logically knows the man does care about her, or even loves her.

2. “All my friends hate you.”

Most women want their girlfriends to be dating sweet, obedient, pussified beta males. So if most of the female friends of a woman you’re dating don’t like you, this is a very, very good sign. By the way, this goes double for your woman’s male friends. It means you’re not acting like the typical pussy beta male everyone expects you to be.
By the way, “hate” is often woman language for “attracted to”. True stat from my life: I have had sex with many of my FB’s and MLTR’s girlfriends who supposedly “hated me” too.

3. “You need to change.”

Translation from Woman to English: “You need to start adhering to my Disney Beta Male Conversion Program™.” The instant you start doing that, betaization, drama, reduced attraction, and reduced sex will begin to occur.
The longer she wants you to “change”, the longer her attraction for you will remain.

4. “Why didn’t you cum today? Hey…you’re saving it for some other girl! Aren’t you?!?”

Women hate it when you don’t cum. It drives them crazy. If her first thought is that you’re saving it for some other chick, well done. She still assumes you’re a sexual possibility to other women, whether true or not.

5. “Why don’t you ever comment on my Facebook? All the other guys do.”

I’ve talked before about how commenting on a girl’s FB page or photos is the kiss of death. Let her orbiters do this. You have better things to do. If she notices, all the better.

6. “God, you are so cheap!”

I love it when women tell me this. Love it! I promise you AFCs rarely hear this complaint. To clarify, this doesn’t mean you’re poor and can’t afford stuff. It means you can afford to pay for things but you don’t. 

7. “You’re so busy all the time!” or “I only see you like once a week!”

Who is a woman more likely to lose attraction for eventually: the guy who has plenty of time, is always available, and is always home playing Halo, or the guy who’s impossible to nail down because he’s always out out working and doing important things with his life?
Take a wild guess.

8. “Could you just try to be monogamous?  Just try?”

This one’s reserved for guys like me who only do nonmonogamous relationships (FBs, MLTRs, or OLTR). If a woman you’re dating a) knows you’re not monogamous to her, and b) wants you to be, and c) keeps dating you anyway, then your frame with her likely can’t be much better.
Think a woman like that won’t last? Think again. I have dated women for over four years straight who were like this. If you do everything right, it works.

9. “Why am I always the one paying for stuff?”

Ah yes. This one is music to my ears. This one is even better than the “God, you’re so cheap!” complaint.
If you ever hear a woman complain about this (I have certainly heard it a few times in my day), then congratulations. If she’s often paying for the both of you when you go out, that’s fantastic. You get an A+.

10. “You never text me.”

This is probably the best one of them all, and the most indicative of your overall frame with her. Most men text women too much. Women are used to them texting all the damn time. If she’s actually complaining you “never” text her, you are sending all kinds of attraction-boosting and attraction-maintaining subcommunicated messages. No other “positive” complaint says more about your overall frame than this one.

So if you’ve heard any of these complaints, well done and keep it up. (Just make sure she doesn’t complain too loudly or too often. Then it’s time for a soft next.)
If you’ve never heard any of the above complaints from the woman you’re dating…uh oh. Trouble is on its way if it hasn’t arrived already. And it’s going to be your fault.

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