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Contrary to popular belief and what you often hear on the internet, there are only four things you need in order to get laid with cute or attractive women without having to pay for it.

And, again contrary to popular belief, none of these four things involve making a lot of money, driving a Ferrari, or having a six-pack (though I will address those things after I talk about the four things).

Here are the four things, listed in no particular order (because they’re all equally important):

1. Confidence (even if it’s fake)

This means you trust in your ability to have sex with attractive women. Women are attracted to confident men even if the men aren’t very good-looking.

The great news is that even if you’re not confident, you can “fake it ‘till you make it” and if you at least act confident during the initial interactions with a new woman (online, first meet, and second meet), this will still work, at least usually.

Then, over time, your fake confidence will become real confidence. I mean, if you think about it, once you have sex with 10 attractive women, how nervous are you going to be to hook up with number 11?

The opposite of having confidence means you are afraid, nervous, timid, and overanalyze shit, all of which will drive your odds of sexual success downwards.

2. Outcome Independence

As I’ve been saying online for over 15 years, outcome independence, i.e. demonstrating to a woman that you do not give a shit at all if you hook up with her or not (while still remaining polite to her!) is the single most attractive non-physical quality a man can have to women.

When you are outcome independent, women, including very hot women, will be attracted to you and they won’t even know why.

If you go out on a first date with some hot babe and you’re super excited, really want it to work, and don’t want to make any mistakes, then you’ve already lost the battle. You’re outcome dependent, and she’ll smell it on you and then never see you again after the date is over. Neediness is a turn-off.

Just like with confidence, you can fake outcome independence if you’re not actually feeling it and it can still work.

One item about this. Is it possible to get laid a lot without outcome independence?

Yes. Alpha Male 1.0s like Donald Trump and Andrew Tate have zero outcome independence and they do just fine with women.

But those are good-looking (or at least they were), famous, wealthy guys with sky-high SMV so the fact they’re outcome dependent as fuck doesn’t affect their results negatively as much (though they do have a lot of drama with women post-lay).

3. Game Skill

Despite what black pill guys and MGTOWs think, game is indeed a skill that can indeed be learned by pussy betas to improve their results with women.

I’m an example of this, going from a divorced, overweight, ten-years-out-of-practice, beta male dad to a guru-level dating guy within 1.5 years simply by learning a lot of dating skills from the PUA community and putting them into practice.

Are there lots of dating “skills” that are total bullshit and don’t work?

Yes.

Does that mean NONE of these dating skills taught online work?

No.

Many of these skills not only work, but work amazingly well.

If you implement these skills, they will indeed vastly improve your results when you combine them with the other three items listed here.

They did for me.

4. Putting In The Numbers

You could be the most skilled, confident, outcome independent Casanova player in the universe, but if you only try these skills on ten women and then go back to your video games, you’re not going to get anywhere.

Unless you are a good-looking A-list celebrity like Brad Pitt, getting laid, especially with more attractive women who have lots of options, is indeed a numbers game. It always has been and it always will be.

There is no getting around this. Once you get your confidence (fake or real), outcome independence (fake or real), and game skills down, then you need to go out into the real world and practice these skills on hundreds or even thousands of women.

Then you’ll get laid with hotties. But not before.

That’s it. Those are the four things. If you do all four of those things, you’ll get laid with attractive women all you want without paying for it. Those four ingredients are really all you need.

That being said, two additional items can accelerate your results if you address them in addition to the four items above. To be clear yet again, the four items above are all you need to be sexually successful with attractive women… but if you also use the two accelerators below, you’ll get from zero to sex much faster and more easily.

Accelerator #1: Optimizing Your Appearance

This means you actively work on looking as least-bad as you possibly can from head to toe, controlling for the only three physical aspects you can’t control which are your age, height, and race.

You might not be able to do much about those three things, but literally everything else about how you look you can optimize to look better, including but not limited to things like:

• Hair
• Skin
• Teeth
• Weight
• Fashion
• Muscle mass
• Grooming
• Body language

You don’t need to look like Tom Cruise, but any man can address those above areas to at least make them less bad. If you do, your results with women will dramatically increase.

To be clear, optimizing your appearance is not this ridiculous “looks maxing” thing that has blown up on social media lately with some Gen Z guys. That’s downright creepy and even effeminate.

I’m just talking about addressing the items above and looking as least bad as you can within the constraints of your age, race, and height. That’s it.

Accelerator #2: SMV

Now, finally, we get to SMV, or Sexual Marketplace Value.

While not required to get laid with attractive women, things like making more money, flashing your wealth around like a douchebag, being more well-known or famous, and/or being naturally better-looking of course can help with women and allow you to get laid faster and/or easier, particularly with women under the age of 30.

I’ve already addressed whether or not to focus on that kind of thing right here, but I will state for the record that it can help.

The four ingredients and the two accelerators. Now you know.