Facial Hair

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As many of you already know I've carefully tracked the results of everything I've done in pickup, seduction, and relationships over the last four years or so.  One of the things I can tell you with no uncertainty is that most women find facial hair more attractive on men than completely clean shaven.  I don't mean all women like facial hair...a few don't, but the vast majority do.

-By Caleb Jones

It's what they call a "gender cue".  Women can't grow facial hair, therefore it turns them on.  It's the same with us guys and women's tits.  Only one woman I've been with in the last year or two has reacted negatively to my facial hair, and even then it was a minor complaint (and she reads this blog too...hi darling!).  All the rest were ecstatic when I grew some.  One 19 year-old I had sex with about two years ago even said it was the defining reason why she chose to get funky with me.  Amazing but true.

This means if you go on 20 first dates with some well-groomed facial hair and 20 first dates clean-shaven, you will lay more women in the first 20 than in the second 20, all other things being equal.  When I first grew facial hair purely as an experiment, I was shocked at how well it worked in sexually attracting women more easily.

If you are currently in the pickup phase of your life, and you are completely clean shaven all the time, you are doing yourself a disservice.  Grow some facial hair.  Right now. What kinds of facial hair are best?  Almost anything works as long as you don't look like a homeless drug addict.  It really depends on your personal style.

My personal favorite, though I can't quite grow it well, is the standard five o'clock shadow look. If I had to pick an overall "best" in terms of what most women find attractive and sexy, that would be it. However that may not be your style, or you may be like me and unable to grow it that well.  Another good option is the light stubble goatee.

This is usually what I have.  I can grow a great goatee but I can't quite get fullness on the sides of my face.  It sucks, but you have to play the cards you're dealt with sometimes. Alternatively, you may want something more beardish. It's not my style, but it might be yours.  It works if you have the face and look for it.

You may have a more metrosexual look, like this:

This is not my look at all, but you may be more of the metro type where this works for you.  Believe me, gayish metrosexual Alpha males get laid A LOT.  It's not my world, but there are a lot of guys who really make that work well. What is "bad" facial hair in terms of attracting women?  The general rule is if it makes you look like a homeless person, it's bad in terms of attracting a large amount of women.  Like this ridiculous shit:

Yeah I know he's Brad Pitt, but you're not.  You do not want to be sarging chicks looking like this.  I'm not saying you can't get laid looking like this, I'm saying it's going to be statistically harder for you to do so.  The reason I get laid as much as I do is I believe in putting as many odds in my favor as possible.

Another big no-no: Mustaches.  No mustaches.  Mustaches are not in style and look odd in the modern era.  Back in the 1800's I'm sure mustaches made women wet.  Not any more.  If you must have a mustache, at least combine it with a soul patch or soul patch plus small goatee, like Orlando Bloom (shown above) or Johnny Depp.

If you don't have have facial hair right now, grow some and experiment.  The great thing is facial hair grows very fast, so experimenting with it is easy.  If you fuck up or look stupid, shave it off, wait three days, and boom, its back for you to experiment with again.  Find something that works well for you.  It will help your pickup efforts.

For You Corporate Types

Some of you work in the business world like I do.  This presents a challenge.  Stats might show that women like men with facial hair more, but the stats also show that facial hair harms your business career in the corporate world.  Numerous business studies have shown that in a business or financial context, people tend to trust men more if they have no facial hair.  If your career isn't that important to you, or you have the type of job or business where you don't physically meet with important clients or prospects, then you can grow all the facial hair you want and not worry about it.

However if you meet face-to-face with important people in your career, as I do, you need to be a little more creative.  I can give you two tips:

1. The Paul Janka Method.  This is for you middle-management types.  If you work in an office every day where you need to look your business best, only shave Mondays through Wednesdays.  You'll look "okay" for work on Thursday and a little scruffy on Friday, but by Saturday you'll look hot n' sexy for the ladies.  Focus your dating efforts on Thursdays through Sundays, then clean up again Monday morning for the new work week.

2. The Blackdragon Method.  This works more for you self-employed or outside sales types.  Go ahead and have some facial hair that looks clean and nice.  When a big meeting comes up with some important clients, prospects, employers, whatever, shave it all off and be Mr. Clean for a few days.  When you're done wowing them in the boardroom and you've closed your million-dollar deal, go back to your manly man facial hair.

There are also some times where I'm just tired of the facial hair and want to look clean, and I shave it off and be Mr. Clean for a while.  That's fine too.  Hey, life is a balance. Just remember, odds are she will be more attracted to you if you have facial hair.

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  • N 2011-07-26 00:37:48

    I can confirm that this > most women find facial hair more attractive on men than completely clean shaven. is true. As is this: > facial hair harms your business career in the corporate world. Working in corporate, I had to suck it up. Will try your two methods (well no.1 at least) and see how it goes.

  • Soy 2011-07-26 15:52:25

    I recently noticed my eyebrows where turning gray. What advice if any do you have regarding eyebrows. Or didn't you do any testing regarding eyebrows? And what about long hair on guys?

  • Blackdragon 2011-07-26 16:43:31

    I didn't address things like eyebrows, sideburns, etc and I should have. Darker, fuller eyebrows are considered much more attractive on men then lighter, smaller ones. Look at Tom Cruise or Colin Farrell. If you darken/thicken your eyebrows, yes, it will make a positive difference. Two ways to do this: 1. Use a men's beard coloring kit (every big grocery store has them) and darken your eyebrows. If you want to keep the color you'll probably have to do it about once a week. It's a bitch. 2. Use an eyebrow darkening kit or brush (not an eyebrow pen!) and darken your eyebrows yourself. The bad news is it washes right off. Have a woman help you with this the first time you try it because it's also a bitch. I have lighter eyebrows and they do look pretty bad if I don't do anything with them. I usually go with option one since I hate wearing makeup.

  • Kevin Velasco 2011-07-27 16:40:55

    I'm lazy, so not shaving for a few days (vs everyday) is right up my alley. Also, I loved the mention of closing the million-dollar deal.

  • N 2011-07-30 22:16:32

    OK so method no 1. didn't work for me. I just can't be at work on Friday with that 5 o'clock shadow on my chin. Looks bad and makes me very self-conscious.

  • TrickyD 2012-02-03 01:53:51

    50% of the women I've laid since growing a full beard have told me I was there first full beard guy. And how much they love it. I keep my beard very closely cropped, and shampoo and condition it like my hair. Apparently my bearded chin makes a pleasant sensation when I use it on her clit.

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  • Kpakpo 2014-01-06 10:17:50

    I'm about black as they come, but a genetically fortunate enough for my hair to be going white (not grey) young. I've actually found that a couple of white eyelashes & some white stubble (only a 1 or 2 day's worth) creates a lot of interest.

  • Jim 2016-05-12 19:17:16

    Use a trimmer to always keep the stubble look, that is what I do. There are adjustments for the length of the stubble you want, and you just shave with the trimmer every other day, then shave your neck and keep it nice an trimmed up.