24 Aug Vasectomy – Pros and Cons
I get a lot of questions about whether or not to get a vasectomy. The last time I received an email about this, I realized I had never addressed it on the blog. As always, you guys give me good topics, so today is the day.
Let’s get the disclaimer over with first. I am not a doctor and am in no way qualified to render medical advice.
-By Caleb Jones
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Alright. Getting a vasectomy is a pretty big decision, since there are big upsides and big downsides.
The Upsides
The advantage of getting a vasectomy is that, obviously, you can never again get a woman pregnant, and never need to worry about any woman going after you for child support. That’s a massive benefit of staggering proportions. I don’t have a vasectomy, and as a result, getting women pregnant on accident is one of the biggest fears I have while living the Alpha Male lifestyle. I am very, very careful about this, to the point of near-ridiculousness.
If you’ve had a vasectomy, you’ll never have that worry or logistical overhead. Very nice. You still need to worry about STDs, but frankly I’m far more concerned about getting some bimbo FB pregnant and being forced at gunpoint to shell out money to her for 18 years than I am concerned about getting chlamydia or even herpes. I’ve never gotten a woman pregnant on accident in 20 years of having sex, so I’m pretty good at this, but the point is having a vasectomy is a HUGE weight off a man’s shoulders, especially a nonmonogamous Alpha. It’s an extremely compelling reason to do this.
This brings up another point. For you older guys who only have sex with women well over age 45, there’s probably no point in getting a vasectomy, since none of these women are going to get pregnant on you. In my experience many women at this age already have been sterilized anyway, via tubal ligation, Essure, or hysterectomy.
So this entire vasectomy discussion only applies to men (of any age) wanting to have sex with women well under the age of 45 or so. If you only play with women older than this, I think you’re good to go, vasectomy or not.
Then Why Not Do It? The Downsides
So you’re a guy who is having sex with women well under age 45 who is 100% sure you don’t want any kids, or any more kids. A vasectomy sounds staggeringly awesome. Why not do it?
As I said above, this is a major decision that you need to make for yourself. All I can do is give you the reasons why I never got a vasectomy, and probably never will. Again, there is no right or wrong here; it’s only a matter of what you view is best for your goals and your life. Regardless, here are the personal reasons why I personally chose to not get a vasectomy.
1. I have a very strong if-it-ain’t-broke-don’t-fix-it ethic regarding my body. It’s just how I am. My cock works just fine for a man my age, so opening up my ball sack and slashing at tubes in there with an X-ACTO knife doesn’t really appeal to me. (I will be going on testosterone replacement therapy soon, but my reasons for that have nothing to do with my sexual performance; any improvement in that area I will consider a happy bonus.)
I’m no doctor, but my understanding is that sperm are organisms designed to exist within a foreign body. Once you get a vasectomy, those spermies are just “released” into your body…a place they were never designed to go. That strikes me as not a great idea. Again though, I have no expertise in this area; I’m just going off what I’ve read.
“Oh Blackdragon, you’re just being a pussy about this. Millions of men have had vasectomies and they’re just fine.”
Oh really? That brings me to my next reason…
2. I’ve heard too many horror stories. Back in 2007, right after my divorce, I strongly considered getting a vasectomy. As always, I did my research. I talked to a doctor about it, and talked to several men who had the procedure. I also spoke with several women I knew who were married to men who had the procedure.
About four out of five times, the story was the usual story you’ve probably heard before. “Oh, no problem, I just went in, had it done, was in pain for a few hours, and it was fine.”
The problem was that one out of five times I got a story. It was never a good story. A few examples:
One guy said it was fine on the day of the procedure. However later that evening, something ruptured, and his ball sack filled with fluid (probably blood). He had to be rushed to the emergency room. It was ugly.
Another guy, my dad, said his procedure “worked out fine”. However it was one of the most terrifying events of his life, since as the doctor was working on his balls, he (the doctor) was complaining about his ex-wife and his divorce (ah, monogamy), to the point of getting emotional, while working on my dad’s scrotum with blades.
Um. Yeah.
It all turned out okay, but one little mistake caused by Mr. Distraught Divorced Doctor, and I shudder to think what could have happened.
I saved the best for last. This was something reported to me by two different married women who did not know each other. The conversation went something like this:
Her: Oh yeah, he had it done, and went right back to work the same day. It was fine.
Me: It was fine?
Her: Well, yeah…
Me: Well yeah what? Why are you hesitating?
Her: Well…it’s just that…once he had it done, it was never quite the same.
Me: What do you mean?
Her: Let’s just say that I have to really work that thing to get it hard now.
Me: And you didn’t before?
Her: No. There was a noticeable difference after he had the vasectomy. At least to me.
Let me say this again: This was the exact same story I got from two wives who did not know each other. This also made me reconsider the possibly thousands of men out there who have had vasectomies suffering from the same problem post-operation who either didn’t notice, didn’t care, or were too embarrassed to tell anyone.
Hm.
I can see some overweight, married, 45 year-old beta male not really giving a shit if his cock doesn’t quite work as well as it did before the vasectomy. But if you’re a 34 year-old Alpha having sex with multiple women, including much younger women, then you’re probably going to care. A lot. And that’s my point. Most guys getting vasectomies are married, monogamous betas, so the pool of available information is based on that demographic. This is an important thing to keep in mind that no doctor is going to tell you.
So four out of five, no problem, one out of five, major problem. That’s a 20% possibility for a major problem based on my admittedly very unscientific polling. Regardless, it was enough to give me pause. I don’t mind 2% odds of failure, but 20% would be a problem, considering the stakes.
3. At one point I considered having more children. However, to be honest this is by far the weakest of my reasons. This isn’t a big issue because every year I get older I like the prospect of having more kids less and less. I already have two kids and they’re amazing; I really don’t need any more.
More importantly, for about $1000 you can get your sperm frozen at a sperm storage facility. Frozen sperm lasts indefinitely; women have been successfully impregnated by sperm that had been frozen for 25 years. So that’s certainly an option if you don’t have any kids yet but want to get a vasectomy anyway. It’s also a good option for you younger guys who want to have kids, but not until you’re older, and are concerned about having “old sperm”. No problem; get your sperm frozen when you’re 25, then have kids when you’re 40 as I and other successful men recommend.
4. Most women under 30 are repulsed by men who can’t father children. This is a complicated one. Often you’ll hear from men that “women love men with vasectomies!” Um, not exactly. That’s only half the story. The real statement is “women in their thirties who already have two or more kids love men with vasectomies.”
If your target market is women over age 33 who have two or more kids, then yes, having a vasectomy is actually a DHV to these women, and they’ll love you for it. Announcing that you’ve had the procedure might even help you get laid.
But if you’re out with a hot, childless, younger woman who’s 22 or 26, and you mention you’ve had a vasectomy, she’ll nod politely, and when the date is over, you will never see her ever again. I’m not kidding. She’ll vanish so fast it’ll make your head spin. This is still true even if she already has kids and even if she says “I never want kids” and even if she only sees you as a potential fuck buddy and nothing more.
Younger women want kids. At least they want the option of having kids later. Period, end of story. You destroy all that Disney if you tell them you can’t father children. I’ve been on first and second dates with women age 18-23 and often they won’t ask anything about me except, “So…are you done having kids?”
In addition, I can tell you from vast experience with much younger women that even Type 2 VYW are creeped out by the concept of a vasectomy. It really rubs them the wrong way, even if they’re attracted to you sexually. My guess is it’s a biological thing, something having to do with the child-bearing age of a woman, but that’s only a theory.
Yes, I suppose you could get a vasectomy and spend the rest of your life lying to women by telling them you never got one, but I don’t lie to women. A true Alpha doesn’t have to lie to women to get laid in my opinion. So again, this is a decision you’ll have to make for yourself.
Just realize that if your target market is much younger women, as in under age 30 and definitely under age 23, having a vasectomy is like kryptonite with these gals. Be aware.
5. I’m confident they’ll invent safe birth control for men someday anyway. I’ve talked about this before. This isn’t going to happen any time soon, but it will happen. It could be a shot, pill, implant, or something else. At some point future technology will render this entire vasectomy discussion moot.
(Update: Upon reading this, a whole bunch of you emailed me saying that male birth control has already been “invented”, excitedly pointing to this link. That method is in development in India, and male birth control stuff has been “in development” for at least 30 years, going back to when I was in high school in the 1980s. “In development” does not mean working, viable, or available. When my next-door neighbor can get reliable, reversible male birth control with little or no side effects, then I’ll get excited. Not until then. We’re still at least a decade way from something like this, at best.)
There you have it. Tremendous upside, and some downsides you need to be aware of. I’m not recommending you don’t get a vasectomy; I think men who get vasectomies are heroes, and I’m very serious about that. Moreover, some or all the downsides may not apply to you. I’m just giving you my reasons, and even my reasons may change over time.
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Alejandro
Posted at 05:45 am, 24th August 2014Regarding 5, the thing is that such a method has been invented already, is called Reversible inhibition of sperm under guidance (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Reversible_inhibition_of_sperm_under_guidance) but the development sadly seems to be going relaitvely slow. You just basically get an injection in your balls and you are infertile for around 10 years, and it can even be reverted if you want to. Is also very cheap. This thing could be huge if it was approved and became mainstream.
I was surprised to see such a thing already existed when I first heard from it. I suspect the reason while it is taking so damn long to get approved is because it was invented by some doctor in India instead of a big pharma company in the US.
Martin
Posted at 06:00 am, 24th August 2014Dissenting opinion here: I had a vasectomy and I am proud of it, but then again, something was broken, so I didn’t violate your “If-it-ain’t-broke-don’t-fix-it rule”.
In my case, I was diagnosed with a serious medical condition as a kid which caused me problems for decades until I managed to get it under control.
In a way, it’s one of the things that made me Alpha: because I didn’t take it like a Beta and just “lived with it” like my parents and doctors wanted.
I am actually almost cured as I found ways to counter it.
When my daugther was a toddler, she was diagnosed with the same sickness: I am one of the rare people who not only had this disease but for whom it is a dominant gene.
My daugther’s kids have 50% chance of getting it too, and any other of my kids have 50% chance of getting it, with their kids having 50% chance of passing it down if they do have it.
I got my vasectomy less than 3 months after the diagnosis, and had zero problems with it.
Now, I have the impression that I took my disease into my own hands and hope my daugther, when she has kids, won’t pass it to another generation.
When I had the vasectomy (on a Friday morning), I was swollen for less than 24 hours and back to work the next Monday morning.
The trick is to just follow the instructions: take the pain and inflammation pills they give you and apply the ice as directed.
Most of the problems occur when the man decides to ignore the warnings…
The main issue I now have is that if I do not ejaculate every week or so, I will have pain from the pressure buildup, something I never had before.
But the only reason I found that out was when I was sick with a serious infection for 2 weeks.
Sure, it’s not for everyone. But with my disease, I don’t want to turn back.
Plus, I am not afraid to make my wife pregnant, and it had ZERO effects of my erections, desire or sexual performances. My wife can attest to that 😉
PS: the first girl I found was studying to be a doctor and she didn’t want kids either, so by having a vasectomy, you can find a whole new range of girls who either don’t want kids, or don’t want kids right away.
Sadly, she was a clingler, but soon, I’ll buy your books to know to better deal with that lifestyle. The first time, my wife and I were improvising.
TarzanWannaBe
Posted at 06:03 am, 24th August 2014Excellent tip BD regarding VYW desiring, among other things, a man who can ‘father’, because it makes biological sense! I wanna investigate further, but suffice it to say, it also fits with the notion that, even considering her hypergamous dual selection strategy (alpha fucks/beta bucks), there’s a great deal of overlap in the characteristics of the two strategies that she’ll positively respond to. That is to say that whether she’s interested in long or short term, she largely responds to the same attributes with a few critical things differentiating the two. At 35+ there might be less biological drive for this ‘father’ requirement (or maybe even an urge against it) or perhaps a measure of maturity & logic has kicked in? What do you think? And btw, for me there have been no downsides.
Toli Kolocotronis
Posted at 06:10 am, 24th August 2014Good article BD, I was in the same boat as you. I’m 42 with 2 kids with absolutely no desire to have anymore. But 2 yrs ago I started testosterone replacement therapy, which pretty much makes you sterile. I tried creams, pellets, and finally shots which for me is by far the best way. I self administer every 4-5 days and couldn’t feel any better. Just be careful which doctor you choose since most don’t have any clue about what they are doing.
John Thomas
Posted at 08:45 am, 24th August 2014Bit the bullet at age 42 and went through with it. Everything works fine. Nice not to worry about errant swimmers sending another mouth to feed into my 60’s.
HOWEVER…a very disturbing study was recently printed in the Journal of Clinical Oncology. Those with vasectomies have a slightly elevated risk of getting prostrate cancer….but IF you’re unfortunate enough to then get prostrate cancer post-vasectomy, you’re far more likely to get a virulent, non-treatable, deadly form of the disease.
The study is consider controversial. But if I’d had this study in hand a few years ago, I probably would have passed on the procedure. I’d rather be raising “surprise” children at 50 than dead from prostrate cancer at 45. Ah well.
Bhodi
Posted at 09:44 am, 24th August 2014I took the cut at 45 I’m 53 now no problems. As for younger women getting creeped out. I dont tell them, if they want kids they can hook up with some beta who ‘ ll gladly support her. I ve got 2 adult children don’t want any more
Caleb Jones
Posted at 10:02 am, 24th August 2014As you said, “invented” does not mean “viable” or “available”. It will take many years, if not decades, before it is so. A lot of guys emailed me about this today so I’m going to update the blog post.
Glad you started; going to be starting soon myself, though I don’t think it “pretty much makes you sterile”. It does dramatically reduce sperm count though. My point is I would NOT use TRT as birth control.
I really, really want the pellet, though I may not be able to get it in my town. Pellet is WAY more time management friendly than shots. Why didn’t you want the pellet? (Email me over at the contact page if you’d like to answer, so we don’t derail the vasectomy conversation.)
Correct. When I first started noticing this with older vasectomy men and VYW, it surprised me until I thought about it a little. Makes perfect sense.
Eh. This sounds to me like a typical medical-hype 2% situation. Therefore I wouldn’t worry about it.
KDN6
Posted at 10:04 am, 24th August 2014Fuck that shit. Ain’t nobody touching my balls unless they suck or lick them. I have the same mentality, if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it. I had my ex “fixed” because I won’t go there. I’m not saying men should not get this surgery, but in my experience, real men don’t need that shit, when they know exactly what women wat.
Acksiom
Posted at 10:34 am, 24th August 2014>That method is in development in India, and male birth control stuff has been “in development” for at least 30 years, going back to when I was in high school in the 1980s. “In development” does not mean working, viable, or available. When my next-door neighbor can get reliable, reversible male birth control with little or no side effects, then I’ll get excited. Not until then. We’re still at least a decade way from something like this, at best.
Except, of course, for how Vasalgel, the usa reboot of RISUG from the Parsemus Foundation, is:
1) either undergoing baboon testing now or about to begin it,
2) on track for human trials in 2015-2016, and
3) aiming for non-profit commercial release ASAP after that.
It will almost certainly be less than a decade, since AFAICT the RISUG research was effectively complete.
If the FDA and other State Powers continue to block it, we’ll just set up Vasalgel clinics in foreign countries (Mexico does this all the time with alternative medicines, forex) paying ‘extra taxes’ for the foreign State Powers ‘permissions’, and still make a happy profit off the medical tourism.
It’s not ten years away because I and other men like me aren’t going to sit on our hands and wait for ‘permission’ to liberate ourselves in this way. If I don’t make the testing cut, I’ll just hire someone to cook a batch of the stuff up for me and a select group of other men.
http://www.parsemusfoundation.org/vasalgel-home/
Caleb Jones
Posted at 12:01 pm, 24th August 2014I’ve heard all of that before. I’m glad things are moving in that direction, but again, I’ll believe it when I see it and not until then.
New Hombre
Posted at 01:04 pm, 24th August 2014I have considered it and had similar thought process as you. Maybe it will be OK, but if it’s not, that’s something I would rather not take a risk on.
Very interested in your journey into TRT. Hope you write about that as you get into it.
Dave the Wonder Llama
Posted at 03:21 pm, 24th August 2014Hey. Excellent article. To have a vasectomy (or any elective surgery) is a very personal decision. I completely respect your point of view and think that you made the best choice for you…but at the same time I’d hesitate to counsel *every* man to avoid the snip. When performed competently it’s a foolproof method of birth control that unequivocally puts control of your fertility back in your own hands. And the risk of complications – intra operatively, early, or late – is vanishingly small. It’s definitely worth considering for a man of any age. FWIW.
Acksiom
Posted at 05:36 pm, 24th August 2014>I’ve heard all of that before.
Including this part, which you ever-so-conveniently left out?
If the FDA and other State Powers continue to block it, we’ll just set up Vasalgel clinics in foreign countries (Mexico does this all the time with alternative medicines, forex) paying ‘extra taxes’ for the foreign State Powers ‘permissions’, and still make a happy profit off the medical tourism.
It’s not ten years away because I and other men like me aren’t going to sit on our hands and wait for ‘permission’ to liberate ourselves in this way. If I don’t make the testing cut, I’ll just hire someone to cook a batch of the stuff up for me and a select group of other men.
What part of that have you heard before, and where?
And if you haven’t heard it before, why aren’t you addressing it?
Caleb Jones
Posted at 06:12 pm, 24th August 2014I will be starting it by the end of the year and yes, I will definitely be blogging about it here. First I have a book to publish. 🙂
Completely agree. That’s why I said men who get vasectomies are heroes. Because they are.
First of all, there’s no need to copy your comment text. I read it the first time.
What I’ve heard before (many times) is that there’s a new awesome form of male birth control “right around the corner” for this reason or that, and yet it never happens, so I’ve learned to be a little skeptical.
Like I said, when I see American men able to easily and cheaply get viable, tested, and reversible male birth control, then I’ll believe it’s an option, but not until then. I know this will happen but I don’t think it will happen in a year or two. If that viewpoint makes you upset you’re more than welcome to be angry.
AKA
Posted at 06:14 pm, 24th August 2014I had a lot of discomfort during my vasectomy. But suffered no aftereffects. I am just as hard as I was before the op.
I have heard of wives being less attracted to their post vas mate. Must be that evolutionary feeling you were referring to. This has not been a problem with me.
Regarding TRT. Just do the shots. They are super easy and fast to do. And they are the easiest to calibrate, dose wise. Pellets and creams are a big guessing game.
yellow
Posted at 07:30 am, 25th August 2014About point 5 of the downsides, have you seen the recent article on returnofkings.com about the use of testosterone injections as a contracepitve?
And personally, I would never consider vasectomy… Having many children trumps freedom for me, as far as values are concenred.
Michael S. Martin
Posted at 09:06 am, 25th August 2014Comments from a man who’s had a vasectomy:
(Forgive me if this double-posts…my original comment seems to be missing.)
I’m 42, happily un-married and child-free. I decided in high school NOT to have children. I had the procedure at 25, 17 glorious years ago, and I’ve not regretted a single day. Child-free women are not hard to find, and they are thrilled knowing you can’t knock them up. I’ve had women tell me they cheered inside the first time I told them I’ve had a vasectomy. Rather than making you appear “less man” to them, you become low-risk, worry-free sex (minus STD precautions).
Did it hurt getting one? Only on one side, and I walked out of there with the biggest sh*t-eating grin, knowing it was done. I had to heal for six weeks, no worries there. The first orgasm post-surgery was the b e s t e v e r .
There is no price you can put on peace of mind, and that’s what a vasectomy has brought me. I’m happy to answer any comments, as this is a subject near and dear to my heart and balls. Cheers.
Jon
Posted at 03:29 pm, 25th August 2014I have nothing substantial to add, just a relevant quote. 🙂
“I’m just, uh, you know, in the market for some frozen peas, maybe some edamame.
Totally up to me.”
-Hank Moody
DonPheromon
Posted at 05:02 am, 27th August 2014“My cock works just fine for a man my age, so opening up my ball sack and slashing at tubes in there with an X-ACTO knife doesn’t really appeal to me”
LoL
BD, off topic I know but have you read Robert Greene’s “The Art Of Seduction” ?
Caleb Jones
Posted at 10:08 am, 27th August 2014No. I thumbed through it once. A lot of seemed to be focused on bagging women who’ve already friend zoned you.
I did read 48 Laws of Power though.
JimmySmash
Posted at 10:50 am, 27th August 2014Art of Seduction is an interesting read for basic principles of psychology and for interesting old stories, but the fundamental focus of most of the book is flawed: it’s all about how to get one particular girl that you’ve selected through meticulous planning, manipulation, and puppeteering. Not very practical or healthy, if you ask me.
DonPheromon
Posted at 04:39 am, 28th August 2014Yeah I was wondering about it. I had read the book severally….even before I got acquainted with the manosphere/PUA stuff mainly because I am always interested in books on Psychology and human relationships. While I find most of it’s techniques on social and political seduction to be correct in my little experience, a lot of the techniques on sexual seduction are directly contradictory to the techniques the manosphere teaches…….even though many PUA coaches recommend the book as the “ultimate” book on seduction.
For example, one of it’s techniques on sexual seduction says one should never be direct about one’s sexual intent but to seem “harmless” by becoming a friend and then when the lady’s defenses are “down” you then “strike” lol…..but we all know that when a lady has friend zoned you, you are doomed forever. So how does one reconcile the two? Obvious contradiction here!
Another talks about “entering one’s spirit” In essence, it says a man for example should adopt the taste’s and interests of a woman, become feminine and behave like her. Soap opera’s, drama, chic flicks etc. To the woman, it recommends showing manly traits like independence, intelligence etc to seduce a man. LoL, again how do we reconcile these with what we know now?
All in all, I enjoy reading the book but I just thought I should seek how others view it’s sexual seduction techniques in relation to modern pick up.
Kurt
Posted at 11:13 am, 29th August 2014“Regarding TRT. Just do the shots. They are super easy and fast to do. And they are the easiest to calibrate, dose wise. Pellets and creams are a big guessing game.”
I’ll second this. You can learn to inject yourself. It’s very safe and easy. Getting your T level “up” is not sufficient, you have to find your sweet spot (max benefits while minimizing cholesterol, blood pressure increases) and the pellets just don’t cut it for this fine-tuning work. Transdermals have too many limitations and you have to apply every day.
Been doing self injections for six months now. I get my own all-plastic syringes (Norm-Ject) so I can pre-load a bunch and store them for injection later, which I do twice/week, sub-cutaneous. Don’t let a doctor give you the injections, they will want to do it only 2X/month and this will screw you up with hormonal ups and downs, estrogen swings, other bullshit.
Check out Mike’s stuff on Danger & Play regarding this:
AKA
Posted at 04:24 pm, 29th August 2014Kurt, where and how do you do the subcutaneous injects? I currently shoot up in my deltoids and it is fine. But I’d like to try the sub-Q sometime.
Skins
Posted at 08:42 pm, 13th January 2015Great article and I’m reading this at the perfect time. Next month I will get a vasectomy. I’ve thought long and hard about it and I feel it’s the right thing to do based on my life plan.
I think those older married guys are sick of boning their wives so that’s why they can’t get it up. Just the thought of having stress free sex with cute foreign babes gets me pumped!
You make a great point… The one thing I haven’t really figured out is what to tell girls. Of course, you can just have sex and not tell them but most normal girls will wonder if she should be on the pill or what? Eventually it would come up. I think I would just keep my info to myself… You’re right it’s tricky because all these young babes want kids… I want fun but they are looking at me like a future husband.
Skins
Posted at 11:22 pm, 12th February 2015Well I finally did it… I got “the snip.” Was pretty much quick and painless. Four days later now and still no pain, bruising or swelling. Doc said no sex for a week so I still haven’t tested by gear but I am getting rock hard erections several times a day. Not used to abstaining from sex for so long… Still getting morning wood too so looks like all is well! Can’t wait to have stress free sex! I think any man who has a bad reaction to vasectomy is either extremely unlucky or it’s all psychological issues. The rest of the guys are banging away with no anxiety about unwanted pregnancy. Good luck guys!
Al
Posted at 12:04 am, 22nd April 2015I had a vasectomy. Nil problems. A friend of mine who had it says he doesn’t get “quite as stiff as he used to” – I haven’t had a problem. Advantages: I don’t get as tired as I used to after sex. It’s like having tantric sex as you aren’t expelling semen. My ejaculate is much whiter and it has no taste. Something that women like. I asked my doctor what happens to the sperm…..he explained it like this: it’s like a factory. If demand stops, the factory shuts down. So in theory,we aren’t absorbing semen into our bodies as no more is produced. Yes, women are attracted to a male who could be a good father etc. etc. BUT there is no way I am going to be a father for any of them.
Dylan
Posted at 07:12 am, 27th August 2016Im 28, unmarried, no kids, and recently had my vasectomy done(no-scalple, no needle). I cant stress enough what a great decision it was. The procedure was extremely quick and easy, although a little uncomfortable and I felt extremely nervous… And I was quite sore leaving the office, however within 1-2 days I felt pretty much normal. Never took any pain medication, just used some ice. After about 7 days there wasn’t even a visible indicator i had anything done! . It looked and felt exactly same as before the procedure. I had sex on the second day after my vasectomy(not recommended) and everything was great haha. I am just as horny as ever and my erections are still rock hard, and I desire sex at the same frequency, perhaps more because I am not concerned about pregnancy, which is my biggest fear. In summary, I’m horny as ever, full of energy and vitality, and happy with my decision.
BD when you talk about the women who told you their husbands just “weren’t the same after” I have a theory. It seems to me, after spending many years researching and reading posts from men about their vasectomies, that bad side effects such as decreased desire and performance tend to happen when it wasn’t really the mans choice to get one, it was HERS. I think a lot of guys have this idea that not being able to father children makes them less of a man, so to speak. So psychologically they are messed up by some aspect of that knowledge, as opposed to anything changing physically or hormonally, if that makes sense. Just a theory though.
As far as young women being freaked out by a guy who’s had a vasectomy, I believe theres some truth to that. Like you said, if they want children one day you destroy that fantasy. SO for this reason, I haven’t told anyone I’m sleeping with about my procedure, and I don’t really intend to. The amount of times women lie about being on birth control and get pregnant “by accident” makes me feel under no moral obligation to mention the state of my fertility. If you feel bad about this and you had the procedure, just tell them you never want to have kids and will never have them. No need to mention the vasectomy. If she leaves, fine. At least then you were upfront and honest and allow her to find a guy who actually does want those things.
LibreMax
Posted at 09:55 am, 10th July 2017Eating milled papaya seeds every day supposedly can make you sterile after 3 months. Stop eating papaya seeds for reversing to fertility in a similar time frame.
More first hand info in this thread, including where to buy the milled papay seeds.
http://alpha20.ning.com/forum/alternatives-to-vasectomy-method-2
CTV
Posted at 10:03 pm, 14th April 2018There are many times I’ve passed up sex of had 2nd thoughts about sex based on Anxiety involving pregnancy.
Next thing ya know.. Gone SOFT. Don’t get me wrong if I’ve had no sleep or a chick has just done something to turn me off it can happen. However I’ve had issues..
I had my Vasectomy scheduled than back out back in January 2018.. Now I’ve got it back on the books and I am SO EXCITED. I can’t wait! At
@ Black Dragon Perhaps it maybe a good idea to have an article on Banking Sperm.. IUI vs. ICI. vs IVF just so guys no wasup who are either going to do a Vasectomy or getting married and considering kids with a chick.. Different Options if you’re having trouble conceiving ETC.
Fellas from what I’ve talked to the Sperm Bank it take an Average of 6 IUI’s to get a girl pregnant with one baby. So if you’re going to get a Vasectomy and haven’t had kids yet/ maybe want some more later/ divorcing your current wife and may start a Second Family.. You may want to bank up about 12-24 IUI’s and some IVF’s just to make sure you’re 100% Covered for the future.
After the procedure I’m hearing it takes about 3 Months.. 30 Ejaculations to clear out all the remaining Sperm left in your tubes before you can go out there and Cum in every chick you see! So make sure you test your sperm and do the follow ups.
I’ll update y’all once I’m done.
ValterPF
Posted at 09:31 am, 27th September 2018Another successful case of vasectomy here 🙂
I’ve been thinking about it for a long time (here in Italy it’s not easy to find such doctor, and quite expensive), and in 2014 I finally did it. Best thing ever! 😀
Finally I could have sex freely without a worry! I didn’t notice any decrease in libido and hardness. I had some minor pain and swelling for some days, and then nothing at all. Totally hassle-free since then.
I did extensive research at the time, and I posted my findings and my experience on my blog (in Italian). In summary, very few men have serious issues (I’d say 1-2% or less). The connection between vasectomy and cancer appears to be bogus.
Of course you have to think really well about it before deciding (you cannot count on reversibility), but if you want to live child-free, I think it’s the best option.
CTV
Posted at 11:06 pm, 25th November 2018@ValterPF
Yea I wouldn’t count on trying to get it Reversed.. God Knows insurance probably won’t cover it, it’ll be pricey, plus the hassle of the a surgical procedure..
That’s why I hit the Sperm Bank 8 TIMES before I got mine done.
Andrew Finch
Posted at 04:38 am, 21st October 2019Well everything has a pros and cons you uses as you can see vasectomy is best way to avoid pregnancy but it has some cons too which avoid man to have a vasectomy and needs to consider more about it as you can see various doctors of vasectomy in Atlanta will tell you in brief and suggest you to have it without any major problem you can do it.