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You’re a typical, everyday guy in a normal monogamous relationship. You’re about to propose marriage to your girlfriend or moving in with her for the long term. Once you propose marriage/cohabitation/whatever to her, you say, “Oh, and by the way, once you’re my wife (or live-in long-term girlfriend), I’m not giving you any money ever, for any reason. Because this isn’t a sugar daddy relationship. Okay?”

Would that work?

Would she say yes to that?

Even in the modern-day, left-wing, feministy girl-boss era in which we live, would most women agree to that?

Even if she said yes, do you think that relationship would actually last? Do you think she’ll stick around with you as she sees all of her other female friends and family members get at least some financial support from their husbands or live-in boyfriends?

I’m pretty sure your answer is no, that wouldn’t work.

Keep that in mind.

Let’s say that you were proposing to a woman some kind of partial long-distance relationship, but one that was very serious and very long-term. For example, you’ll live with her seven months a year but five months a year you’re going to do five flags and travel around the world. Or perhaps you’re with her three weeks at a time but then for two weeks, you’ll be in some other country, forever, with that pattern.

Again, let’s assume it was monogamous and perfectly normal other than this one weird partial long-distance part. To repeat, this is a very serious, long-term relationship or marriage with long-term expectations, like the rest of their lives.

When you’re pitching this to her, you again tell her, “I want to be with you the rest of my life like this. But, just so you know, I’m never giving you any money, ever.”

Again I ask, would she say yes to that?

And if for some weird reason she did say yes to that, would it last?

Again, I’m pretty sure your answer would be no.

Keep that in mind.

A few weeks back I finally revealed on YouTube and the Alpha Male 2.0 podcast the new Alpha Male 2.0 PDM system I’m following where I have three wives who I don’t live with in three different countries. These are three women I intend on spending the rest of my life with, and they intend the same with me. It’s a serious relationship/marriage with long-term expectations (ideally, the rest of my life with all three of these women, if I can pull it off, one of whom I’ve already been with 10 years and a second I’ve been with almost six).

When I explained these three new relationships, I showed the five things a man can do that raise the odds (but of course doesn’t guarantee) that a long-term serious woman (OLTR in most cases) will remain with you for 10, 20, or more years without leaving you.

These five things are:

• Maintaining high attraction
• Low drama from you
• Wife or girlfriend status and some degree of exclusivity
• Some level of financial support
• For women under age 35, having kids with them

I explained how I was doing all five of these things with my three PDMs (wives). Everyone understood four of them, but strangely, a decent group of people had a big problem with the financial one.

I clearly stated that I mandated that all three of these women must have their own incomes (and they do) because I wasn’t going to pay all of their bills like some desperate sugar daddy. Yet, when I mentioned I was giving these women some level of financial support, a bunch of people got very confused.

“Wait… what? Why are you paying these girls?”

“Why do you have to pay them?”

“Oh, so this is a sugar daddy thing then.”

“Well, the only reason they’re doing this with you is that you’re giving them money.”

“I wouldn’t pay women like this! WTF?”

But… yes you would. You just said above that in a monogamous relationship, a woman would be expected to receive at least some money from her husband or serious boyfriend at some point in the relationship, or else it wouldn’t work. That it would be perfectly normal for a man to “pay” a woman money in a serious, long-term, monogamous relationship.

So why is it that in a serious, long-term, non-monogamous relationship, suddenly the man providing the woman some level of financial support becomes this bad or weird thing or a “sugar daddy” relationship? Especially considering these women don’t get very much money from me (I’m extremely frugal and I hate spending money and always have, as most people know; not sure why people would suddenly assume I’m spending a ton of money on these women).

It’s all because society isn’t yet accustomed to non-monogamous relationships, including many people who have been in my audience for a long time and even among some people who are practicing non-monogamy right now. That’s why I didn’t get my feelings hurt about this (not that I ever get my feelings hurt, being outcome-independent and having a low-empathy personality is great for long-term happiness).

Even my mom reacted this way when I explained all of this to her many months ago.

“So, why do you have to pay these girls?” she asked, “I don’t like that.”

“I don’t have to do anything,” I said.

“Then why do you give them money?” she asked.

I gave her a confused look and said, “When Dad first asked you to marry him, if he said he would never, ever give you any money or support you financially, would you have said yes?”

“Well, that’s different,” she said.

“So there you go, you would have said no,” I said, “That’s my point.”

“Yes,” she admitted, “But that’s different.”

“How is it different?” I asked, “He wanted you to be his wife for the rest of his life, I want these women to be my wives for the rest of my life.”

She thought for a minute and finally said, “Well… yeah… I guess it’s not different.”

Bingo.

It’s not any different.

Whether we like it or not, whether we agree with it or not, the vast majority of women (not all, but the vast majority) will expect some kind of financial support if a man wants to be with them in a long-term, serious, girlfriend/boyfriend, co-habiting, or married relationship.

(Yes, there are exceptions to every rule and people love to point out the one woman they know who works all day while her unemployed loser boyfriend stays home and watches TV. Dude, this is not the norm and you know it. As always, the exception proves the rule.)

When it’s a monogamous relationship, men either reluctantly accept this with reality a groan (most men) or gleefully embrace it and think it’s the way it should be (right-wing tradcons). But when it’s non-monogamous, suddenly this gets “weird” or “beta” or “stupid” or “sugar daddy,” when in fact, the only difference is that it’s non-monogamous. It’s still a long-term, loving, GF/BF or married relationship with no difference except the man is having sex with other women.

This all shows that even in the mid-2020s, even in our extreme left-wing collapsing culture, modern-day Western humans still haven’t fully acclimated to the concept of non-monogamy. Non-monogamy is still considered a little warped or weird even though millions upon millions of Westerners are practicing it this very minute (albeit most of them keep quiet about it instead of shouting it to the rooftops as I do).

Let me tell you something. Years ago I planned on having at least three serious, hardcore competitors in the non-monogamy space. In 2009 I started as the only one talking about this stuff publicly, but I figured that by 2020 or so, when non-monogamy became more widely practiced (which is indeed what happened), I would have at least three other guys on the internet with big brands like mine also teaching specific steps on how to do non-monogamy for men.

I figured I’d have to up my game to compete with these future competitors.

Yet, it’s now almost 2025… and there’s still only one guy in this particular niche. Me.

Isn’t that weird? I honestly wasn’t expecting this. I’m still surprised by it.

Yes, there are a few other guys on the internet who carry on some kind of (usually high-drama) relationship with more than one woman and occasionally mention it in their content, but there is still no one on the internet with any real size of an audience who gives specific techniques and models on how normal men can do this. After 16 years of talking about this publicly, I’m still the only one. Wow.

Not that I’m complaining. I’m very happy owning this niche. That’s exactly what you should do in your business, find a narrow weird niche and 100% dominate it.

I’m just saying that’s yet another indicator that society is still way off from fully understanding non-monogamy the way they do monogamy.

It’s super interesting.