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I recently wrote an article about 8 Things Men Over 40 Must Do In Their Dating And Relationships so now it’s time to address you younger guys.

To be clear, an “older” man means you are age 35 or over. If you’re under 35, you’re a “young” man.

Today I’m going to talk to you “very young” guys, meaning you guys who are age 29 or below.

Your advantages and pitfalls are very different than the older guys.

Here we go:

1. Don’t have a girlfriend before you’re 30 years old.

That means no OLTRs are allowed if you’re in your 20s, and certainly no monogamous LTRs.

I don’t care how badly you want one. (You’re going to live well past age 100, and you can’t wait until you’re 30? Why are you in such a rush for this, you big baby? )

I don’t care if your mom is screaming at you. (Don’t worry, we’ll cover Mom in a minute.)

I don’t care if the girl you’re dating is demanding it.

Fuck you and fuck them. I don’t care. And I’m right about this.

I wrote the article on why you shouldn’t do this right here. I strongly suggest you read it.

The bottom line is that your 20s is a very important and pivotal time in your life, and having a girlfriend fucks all of that up.

Get laid, yes. Get FBs and MLTRs if you want, sure. But no girlfriends. You can wait.

Plus, when you’re in your 20s you don’t have the experience or the emotional capacity to properly manage a girlfriend relationship.

Shit, most men over 30 can’t do it, so guys under 20 certainly can’t.

Which leads me right to my next point:

2.Don’t get oneitis.

Young men are far more prone to getting oneitis (obsessed with one girl) than older men, and men under age 24 almost “default” to getting oneitis any time a cool or pretty girl has sex with them.

If you are a young man, you need to understand that your default setting for women is oneitis, which is very, very bad.

You need to be extremely careful to not get oneitis or needy feelings for any woman you have sex with until you are 30 at the very earliest.

If you do, kiss your ass goodbye, you’re in for all kinds of problems in life.

You might be thinking that it’s better to just not have sex and be a celibate MGTOW or incel so that you don’t get oneitis.

Wrong…

3. Don’t be an incel. Get laid.

While it’s true that getting oneitis for a girl will fuck up your life, being a sexless incel will make you angry, reactive, and depressed.

So that’s not going to work either.

Don’t be a pussy. Go get laid. Have one or two FBs. If you’re careful, have an MLTR or two.

But for the love of god, don’t just not have sex because you’re lazy, scared, angry at women, angry about feminists, or have too much red pill brainwashing about how modern-day women are evil or whatever.

Having regular sex with a condom with one or two FBs who are confirmed age of consent is 100% safe.

Calm down, chill out, and get laid.

4. Do what you want with your dating life, not what your mom (or dad) wants.

This one is especially for Asian guys, Indian/Pakistani guys, and many of you black and Hispanic guys. But a few of you white guys fall into this category as well.

Your mom or dad, usually your mom, will eventually start screaming at you to do shit like “settle down with a nice girl,” get married, and have kids so that she can have some grandkids.

I’ve said many times that a modern-day Western man doesn’t reach true adulthood until he has the balls to tell his mom and his dad to FUCK OFF.

Most men can’t do this, and it’s a shame. You might as well be a child.

Fuck you, Dad. I’m going to start my own Alpha 2.0 business and go into any career I want.

Fuck you, Mom. I’m not going to get a girlfriend or get married and I’m going to just have sex with lots of girls until I’m ready to do something else, which will be ten years from now or longer.

And if either of you don’t like it, great, I’m going to block your phone number and you’re not going to see me at any family reunions for a while.

Yes, you need the balls to say this to your parents and mean it.

And yes, I said exactly this to my dad (when I was 28) and my mom (when I was 35), and I meant it, because I’m not a pussy.

Hopefully, you’re not one either.

5. If you live in the USA or Canada, check her ID before you touch her.

If you’re a younger guy that means you’re largely going to date younger girls.

This is fine, but if you live in the USA or Canada and you have sex with a legally underage girl, even if it’s 100% consensual and she lied to you about her age, you run the risk of going to prison and/or being a registered sex offender for the rest of your life.

It’s not guaranteed, and I realize a lot of guys get away with this, but the risk is there.

If you live in a country outside of the USA or Canada, they don’t care very much, but if you live in the Collapsing USA or Cuckoo Canada, I don’t care what excuse she makes or what she says, you need to check her driver’s license or state/provincial ID before you even touch her.

Otherwise, move on. There are plenty of other girls who are legal and safe.

For the record, I’ve had several underage girls in the USA try to have sex with me. I told them I wouldn’t touch them if they couldn’t show me ID. They didn’t (“Oh, uh, I left it at home”), so I didn’t. And later I found out at least two of them were indeed underage.

Don’t be stupid.

6. Don’t get any women pregnant if you live in the West. For fuck’s sake, control yourself.

This is another thing men in their 20s are really, really bad about.

Again, if you live in South America or SE Asia or other parts of the world where they don’t have child support laws (or have them but they aren’t enforced) then I guess do whatever you want.

But if you live anywhere in the Collapsing West, you need to wear condoms with women or confirm she’s on some sort of birth control you can 100% verify, like an IUD (not birth control pills… how do you know she took one this morning?).

If you get her pregnant and she’s dumb enough to have the baby and be a single mom for the rest of her life (and many women are), she will own your wallet for 18 years and you will go to prison if you don’t pay her, even if you can prove to the court you can’t pay based on your income.

Again, control yourself and don’t be stupid.

Have all the babies you want when you’re older, have a lot more money, have a much more stable life, have more maturity and will be a better father, and have children on your timetable and not hers.

7. Don’t get discouraged by chads on social media.

Young guys often fall into the trap of seeing six-pack douchebags like Andrew Tate or Dan Bilzerian and then assume that “all the guys like that” are “getting all the hot girls” and thus “no hot girl would ever date me.”

They also say this about guys who drive lambos and other cool cars.

“Caleb, should I make a lot of money and buy a Lamborghini so I can get hot girls?” (Yes, young guys really ask me that shit. Jesus. Thanks, Instagram.)

I’ve already explained numerous times in my blogs and my books why this is all factually inaccurate, so feel free to read more about that if you feel this way.

I’ve seen with my own eyes numerous average-looking, even borderline ugly guys in their 20s with no money have sex with some of the hottest girls in the universe because these guys had:

1. Confidence

2. Outcome Independence

3. Game skill

4. Work ethic

No, the chads on social media aren’t having sex with all of the hot girls, and there are plenty of hot girls in your city who will have sex with you, yes you, as long as you put in the necessary action (which, admittedly, can take some time depending on your starting point).

8. Don’t overdo the porn.

I’m not a psycho tradcon like Ben Shapiro so I’m not saying you should never watch porn. Because of my paleo-compatible dopamine concepts, I do agree it would be ideal if you never watched modern-day porn (90s porn is okay), but I also think that if you keep it infrequent and under control it’s probably fine.

Hitting the porn every day? Not good. Cut back. Do whatever you need to do.

Hitting the porn a few times a month? Probably okay as long as you’re having plenty of real-life sex regularly.

Hitting the porn all the time but not getting laid? Bad, as I already said in item #3 above. Get laid.

Porn is a very big topic I’ve discussed before so I can’t get into all of that here, but you get my point.

Infrequent, not all the time.