20 Feb The 8 Things Men In Their 20s Must Do In Their Dating And Relationships
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I recently wrote an article about 8 Things Men Over 40 Must Do In Their Dating And Relationships so now it’s time to address you younger guys.
To be clear, an “older” man means you are age 35 or over. If you’re under 35, you’re a “young” man.
Today I’m going to talk to you “very young” guys, meaning you guys who are age 29 or below.
Your advantages and pitfalls are very different than the older guys.
Here we go:
1. Don’t have a girlfriend before you’re 30 years old.
That means no OLTRs are allowed if you’re in your 20s, and certainly no monogamous LTRs.
I don’t care how badly you want one. (You’re going to live well past age 100, and you can’t wait until you’re 30? Why are you in such a rush for this, you big baby? )
I don’t care if your mom is screaming at you. (Don’t worry, we’ll cover Mom in a minute.)
I don’t care if the girl you’re dating is demanding it.
Fuck you and fuck them. I don’t care. And I’m right about this.
I wrote the article on why you shouldn’t do this right here. I strongly suggest you read it.
The bottom line is that your 20s is a very important and pivotal time in your life, and having a girlfriend fucks all of that up.
Get laid, yes. Get FBs and MLTRs if you want, sure. But no girlfriends. You can wait.
Plus, when you’re in your 20s you don’t have the experience or the emotional capacity to properly manage a girlfriend relationship.
Shit, most men over 30 can’t do it, so guys under 20 certainly can’t.
Which leads me right to my next point:
2.Don’t get oneitis.
Young men are far more prone to getting oneitis (obsessed with one girl) than older men, and men under age 24 almost “default” to getting oneitis any time a cool or pretty girl has sex with them.
If you are a young man, you need to understand that your default setting for women is oneitis, which is very, very bad.
You need to be extremely careful to not get oneitis or needy feelings for any woman you have sex with until you are 30 at the very earliest.
If you do, kiss your ass goodbye, you’re in for all kinds of problems in life.
You might be thinking that it’s better to just not have sex and be a celibate MGTOW or incel so that you don’t get oneitis.
Wrong…
3. Don’t be an incel. Get laid.
While it’s true that getting oneitis for a girl will fuck up your life, being a sexless incel will make you angry, reactive, and depressed.
So that’s not going to work either.
Don’t be a pussy. Go get laid. Have one or two FBs. If you’re careful, have an MLTR or two.
But for the love of god, don’t just not have sex because you’re lazy, scared, angry at women, angry about feminists, or have too much red pill brainwashing about how modern-day women are evil or whatever.
Having regular sex with a condom with one or two FBs who are confirmed age of consent is 100% safe.
Calm down, chill out, and get laid.
4. Do what you want with your dating life, not what your mom (or dad) wants.
This one is especially for Asian guys, Indian/Pakistani guys, and many of you black and Hispanic guys. But a few of you white guys fall into this category as well.
Your mom or dad, usually your mom, will eventually start screaming at you to do shit like “settle down with a nice girl,” get married, and have kids so that she can have some grandkids.
I’ve said many times that a modern-day Western man doesn’t reach true adulthood until he has the balls to tell his mom and his dad to FUCK OFF.
Most men can’t do this, and it’s a shame. You might as well be a child.
Fuck you, Dad. I’m going to start my own Alpha 2.0 business and go into any career I want.
Fuck you, Mom. I’m not going to get a girlfriend or get married and I’m going to just have sex with lots of girls until I’m ready to do something else, which will be ten years from now or longer.
And if either of you don’t like it, great, I’m going to block your phone number and you’re not going to see me at any family reunions for a while.
Yes, you need the balls to say this to your parents and mean it.
And yes, I said exactly this to my dad (when I was 28) and my mom (when I was 35), and I meant it, because I’m not a pussy.
Hopefully, you’re not one either.
5. If you live in the USA or Canada, check her ID before you touch her.
If you’re a younger guy that means you’re largely going to date younger girls.
This is fine, but if you live in the USA or Canada and you have sex with a legally underage girl, even if it’s 100% consensual and she lied to you about her age, you run the risk of going to prison and/or being a registered sex offender for the rest of your life.
It’s not guaranteed, and I realize a lot of guys get away with this, but the risk is there.
If you live in a country outside of the USA or Canada, they don’t care very much, but if you live in the Collapsing USA or Cuckoo Canada, I don’t care what excuse she makes or what she says, you need to check her driver’s license or state/provincial ID before you even touch her.
Otherwise, move on. There are plenty of other girls who are legal and safe.
For the record, I’ve had several underage girls in the USA try to have sex with me. I told them I wouldn’t touch them if they couldn’t show me ID. They didn’t (“Oh, uh, I left it at home”), so I didn’t. And later I found out at least two of them were indeed underage.
Don’t be stupid.
6. Don’t get any women pregnant if you live in the West. For fuck’s sake, control yourself.
This is another thing men in their 20s are really, really bad about.
Again, if you live in South America or SE Asia or other parts of the world where they don’t have child support laws (or have them but they aren’t enforced) then I guess do whatever you want.
But if you live anywhere in the Collapsing West, you need to wear condoms with women or confirm she’s on some sort of birth control you can 100% verify, like an IUD (not birth control pills… how do you know she took one this morning?).
If you get her pregnant and she’s dumb enough to have the baby and be a single mom for the rest of her life (and many women are), she will own your wallet for 18 years and you will go to prison if you don’t pay her, even if you can prove to the court you can’t pay based on your income.
Again, control yourself and don’t be stupid.
Have all the babies you want when you’re older, have a lot more money, have a much more stable life, have more maturity and will be a better father, and have children on your timetable and not hers.
7. Don’t get discouraged by chads on social media.
Young guys often fall into the trap of seeing six-pack douchebags like Andrew Tate or Dan Bilzerian and then assume that “all the guys like that” are “getting all the hot girls” and thus “no hot girl would ever date me.”
They also say this about guys who drive lambos and other cool cars.
“Caleb, should I make a lot of money and buy a Lamborghini so I can get hot girls?” (Yes, young guys really ask me that shit. Jesus. Thanks, Instagram.)
I’ve already explained numerous times in my blogs and my books why this is all factually inaccurate, so feel free to read more about that if you feel this way.
I’ve seen with my own eyes numerous average-looking, even borderline ugly guys in their 20s with no money have sex with some of the hottest girls in the universe because these guys had:
1. Confidence
2. Outcome Independence
3. Game skill
4. Work ethic
No, the chads on social media aren’t having sex with all of the hot girls, and there are plenty of hot girls in your city who will have sex with you, yes you, as long as you put in the necessary action (which, admittedly, can take some time depending on your starting point).
8. Don’t overdo the porn.
I’m not a psycho tradcon like Ben Shapiro so I’m not saying you should never watch porn. Because of my paleo-compatible dopamine concepts, I do agree it would be ideal if you never watched modern-day porn (90s porn is okay), but I also think that if you keep it infrequent and under control it’s probably fine.
Hitting the porn every day? Not good. Cut back. Do whatever you need to do.
Hitting the porn a few times a month? Probably okay as long as you’re having plenty of real-life sex regularly.
Hitting the porn all the time but not getting laid? Bad, as I already said in item #3 above. Get laid.
Porn is a very big topic I’ve discussed before so I can’t get into all of that here, but you get my point.
Infrequent, not all the time.
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AlphaOmega
Posted at 10:21 am, 20th February 2025“I do agree it would be ideal if you never watched modern-day porn (90s porn is okay)”
Can you explain this more? What is the main difference and why is the modern stuff bad and the old stuff ok?
Nail
Posted at 01:04 pm, 20th February 2025I always get suspicious when I hear guys in the dating/game community claim this. This is all anecdotal with ulterior motives (selling dating advice books). You don’t know if those guys are actually fucking those girls unless those guys showed you actual pics of that. You also don’t know if those guys have money hidden somewhere that they’re not telling you about.
These guys are idiots. They’re just trying to get laid with hot bitches (despite what they say) and if they had Lambo money, they could literally go and buy hookers. Buying a Lambo just to get laid with hot girls is counterproductive and beating around the bush.
Jack Outside the Box
Posted at 09:25 pm, 20th February 2025Except they wouldn’t, because most men in this world think that buying hookers is for gameless losers and morbidly obese freaks. Most men feel like bad asses when they can get the woman horny for them and fuck them because she’s wet, not because they give a woman money to reluctantly hold her nose and fuck them while exercising her fake acting skills by screaming her head off.
Hookers don’t count for most men, Hookers corrode their self esteem. You’re still living in a bubble, I see.
Harrold
Posted at 09:30 pm, 20th February 2025The lambo guy on instagram PAYS hot chicks to pose for him. It’s an advertisement. Don’t be a dumb ass and fall for this. Oh, and the lambo is leased.
Harrold
Posted at 09:33 pm, 20th February 2025I moved 2000 miles away from my family at age 28. I didn’t actually tell them “fuck you” until 10 years later. But they should have already figured it out — my visits were less than once a year. And then only for family emergencies.
Nail
Posted at 12:32 am, 21st February 2025Oh… it’s you again…. Yeah I am living in a bubble: a bubble where I fuck women way hotter than what other loser men are fucking.
Yeah and those guys are the real losers and are inferior to guys who pay for sex because let’s face it… they’re broke monkeys who convince themselves they sleep with “hot” girls. I’ve fucked porn stars way hotter than what these clowns are banging. If they had all the money in the world, they’d be paying for sex. And they don’t, which is why they’re relegated to being a court jester
Caleb Jones
Posted at 04:10 am, 21st February 2025I explain it all here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m-BO9q5UGik
Caleb Jones
Posted at 04:13 am, 21st February 2025I was observing this and saying this back in 2008 and 2009 when I wasn’t selling anything.
In many cases the GIRLS were the ones who told me.
You really need to go back and read my older blog posts.
Some of these guys were HOMELESS, living on their friend’s couches and shit.
Again, you really need to go into the archive and read my past posts where I address all of this. Your attitude is about 15 years out of date.
Caleb Jones
Posted at 04:14 am, 21st February 2025If your family gave you shit, then good, well done.
Jack Outside the Box
Posted at 05:09 am, 21st February 2025You mean you’re paying actresses to fake shit for you. I understand. But my dispute with you isn’t based on a difference of opinion, but based on you misreading the cultural facts on the ground.
You talk casually about men fucking hookers, and falsely claim that the only reason every man on the planet isn’t fucking hookers is because they don’t have money, but would do it if they did. In other words, you are implying that all men love the idea of hookers and only their lack of money prevents them.
I’m only here to tell you that that is objectively false. Here is the reality that you’re denying:
Most men, regardless of their financial status, hate, and are deeply insulted by, the concept of prostitution. Sleeping with hookers is NOT considered cool. It’s considered, by the overwhelming majority of men, to be disgusting and the sign of a gameless loser who can’t get it for real without financial coercion.
Every single male social circle that I was ever a part of would laugh in your face if you told them you’re even thinking about hiring a hooker. For them it would be confirmation of your low status, and you would be flamed to death until you’d either bow out of the social circle or are driven by it to suicide. You would be ashamed to admit to the guys that you paid for sex. THAT’S HOW MOST MEN THINK AND THAT IS THE CULTURAL REALITY ON THE GROUND.
You seem to deny this and falsely claim that hiring hookers is high status and bad ass in our society, and every man is sick with envy that he doesn’t have enough money to buy one. In other words, objective cultural reality is the exact opposite of how you describe it. That’s my only dispute with you. Not your opinions, but your false factual observations.
So……paying with my dick is inferior to paying with money. Getting the real thing by making a woman genuinely scream with pleasure is inferior to getting a fake actress. We’ll have to agree to disagree there since that is the polar opposite of how the overwhelming majority of men think. But again, I’m not here to dispute your opinions, just your false beliefs about cultural facts.
So only broke people are disgusted by hookers. These are precisely the false facts I wish to challenge.
So do, some don’t.
Because you paid them, not because you genuinely made their pussies wet. My ego, and the egos of most men, require that I get her pussy genuinely wet, which is proven to me by her acting as if my dick is payment enough. But I value female heterosexuality, unlike you.
THIS IS THE HEART AND SOUL OF YOUR DELUSION THAT I WANT TO SHATTER!
I will repeat myself: Most men, regardless of their financial status, hate, and are deeply insulted by, the concept of prostitution. They think that paying for sex is a sign of low status loserhood. Regardless of whether they’re right or wrong, that’s what they think.
If you actually believe that every man would pay for sex if they had the money, thus implying that paying for sex is culturally cool, you couldn’t be more factually inaccurate about our culture. That’s my only argument!
Also, many men value love and emotional pair bonding as well, which is yet another objective reality that you seem to deny.