Drama Management for Younger Women
Women of all ages can give you drama, of course. It’s part of being a woman. The good news is that Alpha Male 2.0s living a nonmonogamous lifestyle (and managing it correctly) will encounter drama from women at a far reduced rate than normal guys in typical relationships.
That all being said, the particular flavor of drama you will receive from younger women (particularly women under the age of 23) and older women (particularly women over age 32) is going to be different.
Drama received from younger women will, generally speaking (and there are always exceptions) have these characteristics:
- More needy
- More immature or childish
- Less rational
- More brief
- Less intense
Be sure to remember the word “less” in the above list. While younger women drama will often be less rational than older women drama, that doesn’t mean older women drama is rational or makes any sense. It’s not and it doesn’t. I’ve seen women well over age 30 and 40 engage in the most irrational, borderline insane drama in the world. I’ve relayed some of those stories in my blogs and books over the years. I’m just saying that things like irrationality tend to be more common with younger women.
As you can see, there is some good news to younger women drama as well. When younger women throw drama at you, the drama tends to be less intense and much briefer than when a 38 or 45 year-old woman is doing it. This is because, as I’ve explained many times, younger women tend to be happier, more carefree, and less stressed out about life than women over age 33.
Younger women have less “life overhead” such as bills, kids, careers, and so forth. They also have less baggage and less negative history. The typical woman in her late 30s can look back on decades of breakups, cheating, divorces, custody battles, asshole bosses, friendship letdowns, and so forth. The typical 20 year-old girl has virtually none of this crap taking up space in her mind… yet.
All of this translates to less intense drama from younger women than from older women, despite the fact such drama may be more irrational or immature.
The most effective way to manage drama from a much younger woman is to assume a very strong but loving father-like frame. The key words there are strong but loving. You need a heavy dosage of both. The frame is that you are her strong “father” that doesn’t take any crap because you don’t have time for it (much unlike the younger men she is accustomed to dating, who have nothing but time on their hands).
At the same time, you “love” her (“love” is in quotes because you probably don’t literally love her in the romantic sense), care for her, and want good things for her. You also recognize that since she’s a younger woman and essentially a teenager since women under age 23 are essentially teenagers regardless of that numeral “2” in the first digit of their age. Thus, she’s not going to quite be able to control herself emotionally in a way an older woman might. (And again, the concept that older women can control their irrational emotions… I say that loosely.)
I describe this in greater detail in The Ultimate Younger Woman Manual, but once armed with that frame, the rest is easy, provided you stick with it.
An example is that she starts bitching at you about how you don’t spend enough time with her. This is a common complaint with younger women dating older men, particularly in MLTRs.
A younger guy her age would just yell back at her and argue with her for 20 minutes straight. This is the wrong move. Obviously.
An older guy who was lacking this strong-but-loving father frame, perhaps a guy who is more beta, would try to explain things to her logically (“Of course I’m busy. I run a company. I have to work during the day. How else do you think I earn an income?”). This, of course, would simply result in more drama and complaints from Little Miss Younger Woman.
An older guy who was lacking this strong-but-loving father frame, but who was more of an Alpha Male 1.0, would lean too hard on the “strong” and not give enough “love.” He would get really upset, harshly snap at her, tell her to stop being stupid, and perhaps insult her further. This might end the drama (maybe), but it will also damage the relationship, increasing the odds of a break-up or LSNFTE. When she stops responding to his texts or Instagram messages, this guy is going to go through the fucking roof. And it’s his fault.
What would the Alpha Male 2.0, strong-but-loving “father” do? He would perhaps touch her gently and say something like, “Yeah. I work really hard. It’s what I do. That’s how I am and that’s how it’s going to be. <softer tone of voice> If you don’t like it, you can stop seeing me whenever you want. But <stronger tone of voice> if you want to keep seeing me, I don’t ever want to hear this kind of complaining again. I’m not taking about this anymore…” Then he would immediately change the subject and move on. If she continued to bitch at him, which is unlikely, he would soft next her, then go have sex with the next younger woman on his list.
Strong and loving. Both. Not one or the other. It’s a hard balance sometimes, particularly if you’ve never interacted with women that way. Notice how the above example includes a little of both. It even gets a little Alpha Male 1.0ish towards the end. That’s okay for the older strong-but-loving “father” getting a little drama from his much younger companion, particularly if she’s under age 23. (If you were dating a woman who was 40, you wouldn’t approach things this way.)
The good news is that if you do this stuff correctly, most younger women will just instantly stop bitching about it and get right back to happiness. That’s one of the beauties of younger women that most older women don’t have. (Older women like to stay angry for a long time.)
If you have not read it yet, I also strongly encourage you to read this article about the guidelines regarding more serious relationships as they relate to much younger women. I see more and more older guys getting into very serious relationships with women under the age of 23, which is a mistake (as I observed here). Having younger women as FBs is great. I have several and always will. Making them MLTRs is fine as long as you’re careful and you’re doing everything correctly. But making them OLTRs or even, god forbid, live-in wives is a recipe for disaster.
So if you’re getting a lot of drama from a younger woman, the most likely reason is that you’ve created a relationship with a too-young woman that is way too serious. You’re 43 and you’re going to move in with a 21 year-old? Uh… yeah, you dumbass, you’re going to get assloads of drama (eventually) and it will be your fault.
But I digress. Use the strong-but-loving father frame when dealing with younger women, and they will thank you.
And then you’ll thank me.
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