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-By Caleb Jones
This complaint usually takes one of the following forms:
“I don’t want to date lots of girls. That takes too much time.”
“Blackdragon, your Alpha 2.0 lifestyle is hedonistic. I’m not like that. I don’t need to be banging tons of girls all the time.”
“Blackdragon thinks sex is the most important thing in life. It’s not!”
“I tried Blackdragon’s relationship system, and I fucked tons of girls, and I hated it.”
“You know, not everyone can go out and fuck tons of hot chicks all the time.”
"I'm not going to spend hours a day dating six different women! I have better things to do!"
The incorrect, and frankly stupid implication in the above statements is that I tell men to go out and “fuck a lot of girls.”
I have never said this.
Seriously. Go back through my archive and find where I said you need to fuck a lot of girls, or date a lot of girls. You won't find it, because I've never said it.
Go ahead. Prove me wrong. Go check. It’s okay, I’ll wait.
No! Listen to me very carefully:
“More than one” means two or more. Two is more than one. Two is not “many.” Two women is not “lots of girls.” Two women is not “hedonistic.” Two women is not “tons of chicks.” Two women is not placing sex as the “most important thing in life.” Two women is just two women. If you think two women is “a lot of women,” then with all due respect, you are retarded.
As I’ve said many times, all most men need is one MLTR or OLTR and one FB on the side. That’s just two women. You only need to have sex with the side-FB once every 4-6 weeks. That’s it. That is not a lot of women to have sex with, but it still qualifies as nonmonogamy. As long as you have at least two women, even if the second woman you don’t see that often, then congratulations, you are following my advice.
YOU DONT HAVE TO HAVE SEX WITH LOTS OF WOMEN. YOU DO NOT NEED TO DATE LOTS OF WOMEN. TWO IS ALL YOU NEED.
Got that? I’m about to expand on this idea a little bit, but before I do, I need to make sure you understand what I just said, and don’t forget it.
Hey, I wouldn’t have to be this empathic and repetitive if there weren’t so many guys misinterpreting my advice.
So let me say it one more time:
I have never advocated for men to go out and “fuck lots of girls.” NO WHERE in my blogs or books have I ever said this. I have only advocated for nonmonogamy, which can mean just TWO girls. TWO girls is not a lot. It’s just two.
Okay, now that we’ve cleared that up, I’ll give you a little more detail on my thoughts regarding the number of women you can or should have in your life.
Two women is plenty for a lot of men. However, some men may want more. This is fine. Historically, I’ve been most happy with three women who are at least semi-regular, but that’s just me. While three women is more than two, three women is still not “a lot.” It’s just three. I chose three as my favorite number many years ago for these reasons:
1. It’s manageable. Having more than three women as FB’s or MLTR’s is a decent amount of work, but having three isn’t too bad.
2. It’s reliable. Even if one woman is sick, or unavailable, or does a LSNFTE, I’m still covered with two. This gives me plenty of time to go get a third (usually via resurrecting a woman from my old list).
3. To me, having two women is too close to monogamy. Again, this is just my personal opinion and I’m not recommending a technique here. If I had just two women, and one left, I’d be instantly de facto monogamous, and that’s way too dangerous for both my frame and my sex life. To me, three is better than two since if one leaves, I’m still not in monogamy zone (which women always do eventually, but 94% come back, so it’s not a big deal).
Again though, this “three figure” is just me. Two might be perfectly fine with you. That’s great, go for it!
Also, some of you guys may think two or three women isn’t enough. Maybe you’re a young guy focused on getting laid right now. Maybe you’re an older guy who just got divorced and is super hungry like I was after mine. That’s fine. If you want to date four, five, six, or even more women at a time, that’s fine, go right ahead. Just remember that’s not what I’m recommending. I’m just recommending more than one, which means two or more. The exact number is completely up to you, based on your age, personality, lifestyle, and where you currently are in your life.
On the flip side, I have said before that I think having a goal like “I want to fuck 100 girls” is a little silly. So you bust your ass for several years at the clubs and on Tinder and you fuck 100 girls. Okay, so what? Then what? These notch count goals, so popular with young PUA guys, are unfulfilling, short term objectives that don’t really lead to anything worthwhile, at least in my opinion.
I have never set a goal to fuck X number of women. My goal, so many years ago, was to get laid whenever I wanted, as fast as I wanted (by sending a few texts and that’s it) with attractive women, at least three times a week, without having to promise anyone monogamy, and without having to pay hookers.
I hit that goal many years ago, and now, that condition is a normal and regular part of my life. Once you have two or more FB’s / MLTR’s, and you know how to go get new women relatively quickly, you’re good to go. My point is that there was never any numerical amount of women I needed to have sex with. I just had sex with as many women as I needed in order to hit that goal.
I have said before that if I just had sex with two women for the rest of my life (both of whom never left and never got fat) that would be plenty. I stand by that statement. (The only reason I need pickup skills is that sadly, women tend to eventually either leave or get fat. It's just how they work in the Western world.)
That’s all I need. I think two or three is fine for most men. Two or three isn’t “lots.”
The next time you ever see someone post anywhere on the internet that my system isn’t a good one because I tell men to “fuck lots of girls” or "date lots of girls," hit him over the head with a link to this article. I never said that. I don't believe that. I never will.
I hope you guys get this.
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