Why It’s So Important To Ignore Her After A Breakup

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Sometimes the most powerful and effective relationship advice is that which is hardest to follow. Soft nexting is a good example of this. It's the most powerful weapon you have in your relationship arsenal; nuclear-strength in fact. However many of you are not going to have the courage to ever try it, either because you fear it or because it opposes your Societal Programming so starkly that you can't imagine it working.

-By Caleb Jones

Today I'm going to discuss another extremely powerful, simple-to-do-but-hard-to-mentally-accept technique that will change your life if you get it and practice it. I'm going to tell you how to ensure an ex comes back to you after she breaks up with you, nexts you, LSNFTEs you, or otherwise leaves you. I have used this technique bazillions of times on scores of women with success rates as high as 94%. It works like a clock, IF you have the balls and self-control to do it, and many of you will not.

Ready? Here it is:
Completely ignore her for at least four months.

That's it. Just ignore her. Don't text her. Don't call her. Don't email her. Don't Facebook her. Don't "like" or comment on anything she posts on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or anything else. Completely vanish out of her life, like you were never there.

This is, of course, the exact opposite of what you'll want to do. You'll want to keep texting, calling, commenting, or whatever to try to "get her back." When a woman dumps your ass, your oneitis, scarcity mentality, and righteous male need for "respect" will all flare up at the same time. You'll want to contact her, often.

The problem is this is exactly what further turns her off. If you keep contacting her, her attraction for you decreases. If you want to fuck her again, you don't want her attraction decreasing, do you?

Completely ignoring her ensures her attraction for you doesn't go down. It either stays the same or, over time, increases. This goes double if she's dumped you for another guy. If she's with her new exciting NRE boyfriend, and you keep contacting her like a little puppy, her attraction for you goes into the toilet. And it's your fault.

This is exactly why I have a FB / MLTR return rate of 94%. And by the way, that's not a guess. That's a real number pulled directly from my spreadsheets. 94% of every woman I've had sex with more than twice has returned to my sex life after leaving me. Sometimes it takes a few weeks for them to come back, sometimes it takes several years. This includes women who leave me and move in with, marry, or have kids with another man. Doesn't matter to me; I let women do whatever they want, I'm having sex with other women anyway, and I know they'll always come back.

Frankly, even that 94% is conservative, since many of the women in the other 6% are ones who move far away and never move back. So if you don't count those, my return rate is damn near 100%.
How do I do it? There are many reasons, since I use all the correct relationship techniques.  But if I had to pick just one of them it would be this: when a woman leaves me, I do the exact opposite of what other men do. I completely vanish out of her life and ignore her for many months. "Many" is at least four, often six to eight months. (Consider four a minimum.) During that time I just go have sex with my other FBs / MLTRs and focus on my work and my Mission. I know there's a 94% chance she'll be back at some point, so I don't worry about it.
Two questions I often get about this:

1. Can you contact her after four months? What do you say?

After about 4-6 months, if I need to add some FBs or MLTRs on rotation, I will check her out as best I can without contacting her (via Facebook, Twitter, or any other social media she's on), and see if she has a New Boyfriend. If she's single or has an Old Boyfriend, then I will send her a quickie text with a casual comment like, "I just saw a girl walk down the street who looked just like you." Sometimes I even just say, "How's it going?"
It doesn't really matter what you say, as long as you are non-needy, outcome independent, and don't compliment her.

What if my quick checking reveals she does have a New Boyfriend? No problem. I just reset the timer and keep on ignoring her for another 4-6 months. Then I might check again. Hitting up an ex who has a New Boyfriend is a complete and utter waste of your time. She's in NRE bilss with her New (temporary) Boyfriend so she probably won't even return your texts.

Just wait until she dumps his ass (which she will), or worst case, wait until New Boyfriend becomes Old Boyfriend. Women rarely cheat on New Boyfriends, but women cheat on Old Boyfriends all the time.

2. What happens if she contacts you first?
If she contacts you first, completely out of the blue, then it's okay to respond even if it's well before four months. This is likely a indicator of interest, and is often a good sign.

Respond to her in a casual, non-needy, outcome independent way. Feel her out and find out why she's contacting you. If she's contacting you for a purely logistical reason, like she wants her leather jacket she left at your house for a date with her New Boyfriend on Saturday, then robotically address the logistics as fast as you possibly can and then terminate the conversation as fast as possible. Then start the four-month ignore timer all over again.

If she's contacting you because she's bored or just wants to talk, this is great news. Suggest she comes over to your place and proceed as normal into her pants. If you get serious resistance to the idea of her coming over or seeing you, terminate the conversation as fast as you can and reset the four-month ignore timer again.

Eventually, if you do this as I'm describing, you will have sex with her again. It's virtually guaranteed assuming A) you do it correctly, B) you're in no rush, and C) you weren't a oneitisy pussy or extreme asshole while you were dating her the first time around.

Or, you can ignore my advice and keep contacting her over and over again to "be nice" or "maintain the connection" or "keep the interest up" or to "try to get her back." All of this will ensure you'll be stuck in friend zone forever and never get her back into your sex life.
Up to you.

Note/Update: I am no longer responding to any comments on this post. No, your situation is not "unique" or "different." It's the exact same steps for every scenario. Way too many of you are being complete pussies and not following the very clear and simple advice you've been given. Maybe other commenters can help you here, but I won't.

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