Female Condoms
A year or two ago I started experimenting with female condoms. I use the typical male condoms of course, and have talked about my experiences with them here, but I admit they’re a little problematic at times, since the sensation of sex while using a condom is noticeably lessened (though this is less the case if you’re on TRT).
This is particularly true if you’re already having sex with an OLTR or high-end MLTR without using a condom. I know that men who are hardcore polyamorous, or only have sex with FBs or hookers and whatnot, and who use condoms 100% of the time, actually become accustomed to the reduced sensation and everything feels fine to them (at least over time). But men in open relationships where there’s one special girl he’s not using a condom with, while using condoms on all the rest, always get that distinct lessening of sensation with side women.
Of course it should go without saying that you should not be going without a condom on more than one woman at a time. I know a lot of you violate that rule, and it’s your body, but STDs and accidental pregnancies are no fun. Even you guys with vasectomies can still get STDs, particularly from those younger girls who are less careful about that kind of thing.
One day I decided to use a female condom on a FB instead of the usual male condoms. Once I got the hang of it, I was sold. I can now officially recommend female condoms over normal condoms if you can deal with their negatives, which I think are negligible. I’ll cover both the good and the bad.
The Positives
1. They feel fantastic. Far better than standard condoms. Seriously. These things are awesome.
A male condom goes over your cock and snugly sticks to it during sex. When you move back and forth, you feel less sensation because you’re not getting any friction between your skin and hers.
Female condoms work in exactly the reverse way. They go inside her first and stay there. Then your cock goes inside the female condom, which is inside her, and when you move back and forth, you’re feeling all the same friction you would feel during normal sex. It feels great.
The only difference is that the friction you’re feeling is against the material of the condom rather than her skin, but honestly, your cock barely knows the difference. (Let’s face it, your cock is pretty stupid. I know mine is.)
You might ask if this difference feels less good for the woman. I can’t answer that definitively, but according to the women I’ve used female condoms on, it feels about the same. Women hate condoms as much as men do, so condomless sex still feels better to a woman. But the difference for the woman between the standard and female condom seems to be minimal, at least based on the feedback I’ve received.
One reason for this is that much (or most!) of the sensation during sex a woman feels is actually outside of the vagina. This is unaffected by a female condom. She still feels that.
Again though, I’m just guessing. Any women who have had sex using both types of condoms are more than welcome to comment below on any significant differences they felt. All I can tell you for sure is YOU, as the man, will feel the difference. In a good way.
2. They don’t need to be discarded during a night of sex. Sometimes with normal condoms, as you change positions, or go down on her, or whatever, you either lose a part of your erection or the condom slips off. Often you need to get another condom to replace it.
With female condoms, this never happens. The female condom just stays inside her the entire time. You never need to remove and discard it until you’re all done having sex.
3. It solves the “safe sex for threesomes” problem. I get email from you guys asking what to do regarding condoms during threesomes. Do you use two different condoms, one for each woman? Do you use a condom on one and not the other? Can you fuck one using one condom, and use that same condom for the other girl, or do you have to replace the condom every time you switch?
Female condoms solves all those problems. Put one condom inside each woman, and you’re done. You can pump away on both of them all night long, switch off as often as you like, and none of the three of you are at risk for an STD.
4. You don’t need to keep checking them during sex. As I’ve talked about before, condoms sometimes roll up on you, so you have to keep checking the damn things during sex. I’ve never had a female condom do the same. Maybe someday it will happen, but it hasn’t yet.
5. Far less risk of breaking. I’ve had condoms break. Not often, but it’s happened. Hey, my cock is huge, okay? (Just kidding. I’m very average down there.)
With female condoms, the odds of this happening are far, far less. This is because they’re not tightly wrapped around your cock like a damn superhero costume. Instead, they just “rest” inside her vag, not tight around anything. I can’t even visualize how a female condom would break unless it was defective out of the wrapper.
The Negatives
Nothing in life is perfect, so I have to cover the negatives too. I will list them in order of severity. However, I consider all of these negatives well worth the positives.
1. They cost more. Most normal condoms cost around 35 to 50 cents, depending on what kind and how you purchase them. Female condoms cost about triple this, running around $1.40 per condom, again depending on what brands you use and where/how you get them. The ones I’ve typically used are these ones. At some point I may research cheaper ways of getting them, but regardless of what you do, they’re still going to be more expensive.
Unless you’re on a really tight budget, I don’t think this matters much to most of you. Also remember that these condoms never have to be replaced during sex, which saves a little money.
2. They look weird while in use. This is the big reason why female condoms have never caught on, and why they probably never will even though they’re clearly better.
Once the female condom is inside her, the end of it hangs out of her pussy the entire time you’re having sex. It looks a little weird if you’re not accustomed to it, and she will definitely feel weird about it if she’s not accustomed to it either.
Do I give a shit about this? No. Once you’re having sex, your eyes are nowhere near that region anyway. Even during doggy style it looks just fine.
You’ll just have to calm your female partner about this the first few times you use them and explain to her that it’s “normal” for it to look like that. Once she starts feeling good, she won’t care.
3. There’s a “process” to them at the start of sex. Just like you have to put your normal condom on before sex, she has to put her condom “on” before sex if you use a female condom.
The process is pretty simple but it might take you one or two tries the very first time you do it. There are instructions enclosed with every packet of female condoms to help you. The female condom is a cylinder with one end that’s slightly smaller than the other. All you do is A) make sure she’s wet, B) pinch the smaller end so it gets small, C) gently push it inside her with your finger (this can actually feel good to her if you do it right) so that it’s all the way in (or close to it) with the end hanging out.
That’s it. When you have sex, you put your cock in the condom instead of her. From that point on, it’s all the same, except it feels way better than using a standard condom.
I strongly recommend you get a pack of these babies and try them out at least once or twice. You’ll thank me.
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Sounds convenient and i certainly wouldn’t have a problem with it but the hardest thing about using these is convincing your gyal to use it! Especially a FB.
I look forward to the day they bring out the male pill. I seen a news article yesterday that they have invented one that you can take minutes before sex and lasts several days. But they reckon it won’t be available until 2021 as it has to be approved etc. If I find the article I’ll put the link on here.
I have no familiarity with female condoms, but have a lot with male condoms. I have comments a couple of questions about female condoms. Here it goes. I have read a long time ago  that female latex(rubber) condoms are not quite as good at preventing Sexually Transmitted Diseases, STDs, and pregnancy as male latex(rubber) condoms. Obviously any other material of condoms besides latex do not prevent STDs and pregnancy such as lamb skin condoms which prevent pregnancy but do not prevent STDs. Is the female condom better at preventing STDs and pregnancy than male condoms and if so what are the percentages on both female condoms and male condoms for doing each? If the female condom sticks out, will it prevent transmission of STDs for oral sex or not?
In response to my first comment here is the article on the male pill
http://www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/new-male-contraceptive-pill-stops-9110485?0p19G=c
One other advantage to the female condom is that she can insert it before a *date* even begins so there is no stopping of the action once started.
Female condoms are just as effective as male condoms in preventing STDs and pregnancy.
The only problem guys might have if she inserts it before hand is knowing that she has not compromised it which could lead to pregnancy.
They are also much, much better for guys that have ED or EDis. The less disruption in the action the better the chances of reaching your final goal.
Try this site if you have questions. fc2.us.com
You still need to be careful of a female condom slipping out of place. I’ve used them and then ended up without a condom because it got pushed inside her (of course I caught this before I came, and I’m not sure how the ‘error rate’ compares to male condoms, but you still need to check it)
The trick to beating the sensation problem: Use a condom that’s lubricated inside AND out. The Trojan Ecstasy you mention in your condom article is a great example of this.
Those FC2s look promising, though. How do they smell? Most condoms smell fucking horrible, and the only brand I’ve found that doesn’t smell (Beyond Seven) is unfortunately very small :/ It says the FC2s are not latex, so maybe there’s some hope?
As I’ve talked about before, due to an array of social reasons (not technological reasons), it’s going to be a very, very long time before this happens. Regardless of tech advancements, unfortunately us men are stuck with condoms and vasectomy for the time being.
If the issue was just technology, we would have had a male birth control pill over 20 years ago. I’m serious.
I never thought of that. I guess that could work. But like you said, I think I’d prefer to be the one putting it in there rather than trusting her.
Correct; that is my understanding.
Yes! And men who are virgins too.
Yeah, I check them, because I’m so paranoid, but I’ve never had a problem (yet).
Or just put a tiny drop of lube on your cock before entry. Same deal.
No smell that I can detect. But to be fair my sense of smell isn’t that great.
It’s always nice seeing someone promoting safe sex and offering info on the less mentioned options. We need more of it.
By the way for the guys living in the US I believe the female condom is covered by insurance.
As far as the pill for men I have to wonder if it would reduce your libido the way the female pill does with women. The idea of the pill is okay but like the female pill it probably would not protect you from STDs. If pregnancy is your only worry you can always just pull out before the time comes. In all my years I have never known anyone who claims to have gotten pregnant from pre-cum.
I have to go to the pharmacy today so I will check to see if they are available in my small town. If they are not on the shelf I will ask about them. If for no other reason than to see the look on their face.
It embarrassing that society has gotten to the point I mention this but…
For the college guys its one more layer to the consent part. If she puts a condom in she is clearly consenting, right?
Lol, just not sure if this happens before or after she signs the waiver…
I am looking forward to try Origami Condoms if they ever hit the market. They are 2 kinds of condoms, one is some kind of a female vaginal condom that the woman wears, except it maintains friction for both the male and female.
The other condom is for anal, the receptive partner wears it. These are totally different designs from the normal male and femal condoms. I also use female condoms if I can find them and agree with BD’s review. So these Origami condoms sound very exciting. But last time I looked it up it seems they had legal issues.
Here is some videos explaining the specifics:
https://www.youtube.com/user/OrigamiCondoms?
Yes, those things are god damn amazing. At some point we’ll have something like this.
I’m wondering can you use these female condoms for anal too? I imagine having female condom in her anus and in her pussy and you could switch up between the holes without any hassle. Works or doesnt?
Never tried it, but yeah, that should work.
Well, I checked at my pharmacy and no none to be had. It was busy and so I did not talk to the pharmacist. But did go back today and ask – they will check to see if they can get them.
Amazon does carry them and they run about 6.95 for a 3 pack.
I read all 14 pages of comments. Laughed my arse off at some of them but I am easily amused.
I did learn that:
they can be used for anal, it was recommended that the inner ring be removed.
that if you are more than average length you may not like them, one person said 6″, another said 6.7 and apparently someone measured and said 6.25 is the length.
everyone said they require more lube to be used once inserted, apparently the lube inside dries out quickly.
they are good for fat men.
and if you are really well endowed you can wear them like a male condom.
it does seem like it takes a bit of practice to get it inserted properly.
oh, and many of the women reviewers claimed the outer ring gives some clitoral stimulation.
It really isn’t that difficult. After I did it one time, from then on it was fine.
That’s funny. I laughed. I can only imagine some black guy with a horse cock putting on a female condom.
@Just Curious
I got that achievement Sir. Just use those stupid condoms and be happy.
@Alejo
Guess you should have bought a lottery ticket instead. Sorry about your luck.
> I look forward to the day they bring out the male pill.
This thing already exists and BD talks about it elsewhere. It is called TRT and it makes you temporarily sterile. It has other effects too, nearly all of which are positive, but, because of the fact it is not entirely a focused prophylactic YMMV.
However, the primary purpose of a condom is protection from STDs, and no pill will fix that until they find a cure for some of the more pernicious ones.
Tbh i worry more about accidental pregnancies than STDs.
Same here.
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This should work very well but the picture in my mind of her with two condoms hanging out of her just had me in stitches. 🙂 I wonder how she would feel about it?
Al, think that would make her happy, knowing that the guy could never penetrate her pussy with anus bacteria dick. Which is a problem with condoms/raw anal penetration. No more condom switching or running to shower the dick in between anal sessions. With condoms/raw sex if you start anal, you must finish with anal. Well not anymore! I think female condoms would be way bigger thing if they marketed it with this slogan!
Tried the FC2s last night. My initial thoughts:
– No latex smell (HELL YES)
– Felt great. I liked it way better than male condoms. Unfortunately, I completely forgot to ask for her opinion on it… Â Sorry for being a selfish douche guys, I’ll ask her and let you know what she said.
– Very easy to make insertion intimate. Simply finger her while you work the inner ring in. I didn’t prep her for it at all. We were making out on my bed and I said “hey, I have a surprise for you. open your legs”. She asked what it was and I said “a new condom”. She had a few other questions, but I ignored her and stuck it in… And there were no further questions! 🙂
– Lube recommended. I had the condom come out with my penis a few times, but lube fixed the problem. I used silicon-based (Pjur). Also, this girl in particular is not very deep (I can reach her cervix with my middle finger alone), so I suspect that had something to do with it. During intercourse, the condom was dangling from her by a few inches, which I don’t think is the norm and probably increased the possibility of a pull out.
– Despite the higher per-unit cost, they work out to be a lot cheaper in the end. When I use male condoms, I usually go through 3+ condoms for a single session, depending on position changes and duration and whatever else might be going on. With the female condom, I used ONE. The only required maintenance was re-lubing every now and then.
Hey BD,
What are the odds, percentage wise, of contracting Chlamydia, Gonorrhea, Syphilis, Herpes, and HPV from receiving a blowjob without a condom?
I ask this cuz you mentioned before that receiving oral from a woman was less risky than going down on her.
Could you elaborate on this and provide some sources?
I don’t have any sources handy, but I have read into it. You can find them if you Google around.
With Chlamydia, Gonorrhea, HPV it’s almost impossible (though technically possible).
Syphilis and Herpes 1, it’s certainly possible but below 2% and thus (for me at least) part of the 2% Rule.
With Herpes 2 it’s only possible if she has Herpes 2 (not Herpes 1) cold sores in or around her mouth. Highly unlikely (2% or less again).
I tried some as part of New Year’s celebration, and BD is right in every regard. This might be the first type of condom where a “so good that it feels like using nothing at all” claim would be close to truth.
The girl actually said she particularly enjoyed (psychologically) me cumming inside her, because unlike using a male condom where I would cum yet keep my sperm to myself, removing it from her with the condom, I “gave” it to her (even though it was still confined in rubber).